There is this guy and he and I have known eachother for about 9 months. We have had hookups but not sex. He has asked and i respectly decline his offer. My parents dont like him b/c of his past. He is 19 and I am 15 who is mature abuot what i do with guys. Should I not talk to him anymore? or should I listen to my heart which is saying, Go get him Kate Go be with him. Runaway and be with him. Thats what I want to do. Me and my dad dont get along and me and my sister right now hate eachother. Whats the point of being at him right? I hate it at my house and I want to go for runs just to see him. What should I do?
2006-12-26 12:13:21 · 35 answers · asked by KK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Uhh, ok first of all he shouldnt be dating you because it is illegal..you are a minor to him. Second, what good will really come out of running away with a 19 year old who cannot even support himself yet? Will running away from home do anything? Your heart isnt telling you anything..you are just feeling rebellious against your family. I suggest working things out at home before even thinking of trying to escape.
2006-12-26 12:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Despite everything, you are still underage, and to have sex with him, he would be charged with rape for having sex with a minor (even though you do it willingly, the law sucks, I know). I'm sure you wouldn't want to get him into trouble with the law. Your parents are responsible for you now because of your age, so please be patient. Time will also tell if he really is the right one for you, without anyone telling you so. All i can say is, be patient. There's no point of running away with him, because you know that your parents will call the police, and that'll not only get you into trouble, but him as well. Please be considerate of the people around you before you act. If you want your parents to respect you, you need to earn that respect from them and not doing senseless and unthoughtful things. I hope things will turn out ok between you guys. In the meantime, you can learn and understand more about him before committing yourself to him. 9 months is neither a long nor a short period, and you can never fully understand that person 100% for the rest of your life. Take things slowly, and enjoy life more. Good luck!
2006-12-26 12:24:37 · answer #2 · answered by Hanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look I would deff listen to your parents. You are only 15. Guys will come in and out of your life constantly. If this guy really likes you he will understand if you tell him you cant be with him right now. But I am sure he will just run away b/c most guys are assholes. Ok you and him havnt had sex but you dont know what he is doing when you and him arnt around each other. Just listen to your parents. If yall didnt stay together what are you going to do. You dont have no money you would be lost . Just stay at home and finish school.
2006-12-26 12:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by Chris F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents! Maybe you and your dad do not get along right now because he is dealing with something difficult in his life that you know nothing about. It's sad to say it, but sometimes parents let the things they struggle with spill over onto their relationships with their children. I am certain that your father loves you very much. And when it comes to the 19 year old, he only wants to look out for you. It's difficult for you to understand it like this, but your dad was a 19 year old guy once before too. He knows alot about what your guy friend is thinking and feeling. Listen to your dad. He may be a gruff right now, but he still loves you enough to notice that maybe this 19 year old doesn't have YOUR best interest at heart.
2006-12-26 12:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by †♥mslamom♥† 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be: Listen to the advice given by the majority who have answered your question.
It is irresponsible to run away and be with him. He's only 19 and think about how both of you would cope if you ran away. What you want may not be good for you, even if you think that it would make you happy. You don;t know how long that happiness would last. Worse still, you may regret running with him.
Ask yourself: Do you really like this guy enough to live with him? Do you foresee yourself being happy with him in future? Are you willing to give up everything you've known to be with him?
You mentioned that your parents don't like him because of his past. Think about his past and ask yourself whether this guy is indeed the kind of man you want to live with. His past may haunt you some day, and that's not going to feel nice at all.
One last piece of advice: Be responsible. Don't run away from your problems (with your parents, siblings, etc.), just because you think being with this guy would make you happy. Stay at home and sort out your mind.
2006-12-26 12:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by sul73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents know what's best for theyre children.
Trust me, i was just like you.
And i had to learn the hard way.
Being with someone who's had a bad past, means hes not such a good person.
So why waste your time with someone like that, when you could be with someone else who's had a better past, and that your parent's accept.
Dont rush it. Your only 15, and you still have ALOT to live and learn.
Always listen to your parents, cuz they have more experience in life, they love you, and they want the best for you.
I know deep down it hurts alot, but... in the end, you'll realize that your parents were right.
I had to go through this alot of times.
And i ended up hurt because i didnt pay attention to my parents.
But it helped me and made me stronger.
So..remember , everything is a lesson.
Good luck. God Bless You.
2006-12-26 12:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is that "in love" feeling. It is scientifically proven to be temporary. Don't ruin your life because of it. If you want to leave home, just wait a few years. I know it seems like a long time, but it will fly by. You'll see. Then you can leave home properly and create a great future for yourself. You must have dreams. It will be hard to accomplish them if you run off at the age of 15. Your problems with your father and sister are typical for your age. Conflict motivates you to leave the nest, so to speak.
Please think of your long term future, not just how you feel right now. I know it is hard, but toughing it out will be an investment in the rest of your life.
2006-12-26 12:21:14 · answer #7 · answered by ifyousaysooooooooooo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your heart has barely learned to speak, it doesn't know what lies ahead. Tell it to hush and listen to your head. Going against your parent's wishes is likely to make life more unpleasant, not less. Running away to be with that boy would not only put him in legal trouble, but would likely be a rude awakening for you re: life in the real adult world.
If he has a questionable past, then I can see why your parents might not prefer him as someone one of their children was close to. Since you consider yourself to be mature, try to look at it from their perspective. Would you want your daughter to hang out with a guy with this guy's past? Chances are that he tells you what you want to hear...is able to instigate warm/fuzzy feelings within you...we allow people to have that effect on us sometimes to our detriment.
Listen to your parents. Chances are down the road you will thank them for their wisdom, when you were young and impulsive.
2006-12-26 12:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 00:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by mulry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont run away. That wont solve problems but will only make them worse and get you in trouble. Parents can be very protective especially with an age difference like that but you have to show your parents how well he treats you and how wrong their opinion of him is. You just have to prove them wrong about him. Dont stop til your parents see your real relationship with him. Good luck!!
2006-12-26 12:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by Melinda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋