and chilling and I was thinking that I finally met a really good guy. He was respectful and he was taking me out to eat and everything. Even after the first time we got physical he was the same.....then all of a sudden it changes like that. About two and half months into it he sort of changes...he never really tells me that he just wants to be friends (but we had never really established that we were together) he just kinda throws me to the side....he doesnt text me any more that he misses me and now when we talk on the phone its like for five minutes....and lately when I go to chill he is usually talking to other girls on the phone...after I got mad at him for being disrespectful he tells me he talks to girls on the internet to get money from them and signs point that way because he has things now he never had! And he doesnt work..ex(a brand new phone, clothes)He treats me okay as a friend, still wants sex..I cut it off after the disrespectfullness,but should I bounce or be cool?
2006-12-26 12:13:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The thing that gets me is he calls me his best bud and when we do get together we have a lot of fun...i just cant get over what he does to these other women and why he didnt try to do it to me...its like he started out trying to get money from me because I see it now from things that he did in the beginning and things he says, but he did take me out...i just think that he was trying to give a little to get a lot but then it changed.
2006-12-26 12:17:01 · update #1
If I may answer without stepping out over the line and hurting you, which is not what I want at all, I think he was out to see what he could get from you from the beginning. I've been through some tough lessons as a single woman with men, and this is the way I view your situation. Not all men are bad I hear. We woman (mind you not all, some women are like men in ways) tend to think with our hearts first and foremost not looking at the obvious signs in front of us. Later after alot of crap, some of us will start to think with our heads and not our hearts. I know it's hard, but thinking with your head at first and walking away from the man if there are obvious red flags is what we are supposed to be doing. I say "we" because I am very much guilty of not using my head at times. I bet he'd be real suprised if you let him know that you were better than his BS and didn't need OR want to be around him and didn't have the time of the day for him. I'm not saying this is going to change his colors, but it very well might give him an inclination of "Hey, maybe I'm not all that after all!" Hoping the best for you... been there.
2006-12-26 12:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by bibliophile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
METING SOMEONE ON THE NET CAN BE FUN, BUT ALWAYS HAS A CATCH! i say leave him, don't call OR hang out with him, he is the type who takes advantage of women, don't fall into it, there is someone out there for you. deep in your heart you know he is not the one for you. look into your heart and soul, he is a womanizer, you don't need that kind of person in your life, just step back and watch, you will see, even though you already know the answer to your question...don't you?
Good Luck and be safe.
2006-12-26 12:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by debra_ehu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first off you're a retard for even meeting this guy in only 4 months, second, you're an idiot for getting "physical" witha guy you don't even know, and third, have you never heard of "internet predators, rapists, sexual predators, anything like that? oh, you met some guy online, how can you even kiss him when you don't know anything about him, sure he might of told you syuff, but you have no idea what he's doing ever,
2006-12-26 12:19:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you need to drop his ***. he was going to use like a paper sack. and stop the sex!! because he got what he wanted and he still talks to girls on the phone and internet. plus you and him haven't established what you are, so don't let your feelings get into this thing, just do your thang and keep talking to the men online, hell, he does, so why should you stop!!!
2006-12-26 12:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by ken's princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is totally using you. You deserve more than that. Leave!!
2006-12-26 12:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a ho and your are stupid for putting up with his sorry ***.
2006-12-26 12:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by Creampoof737 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him.
2006-12-26 12:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by dragon_2877 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bounce!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-26 12:15:29 · answer #8 · answered by nadaclue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋