why are they so afraid to ask us women out??? why do we always have to do it?? who is supposed to have the balls???
2006-12-26 12:10:44 · 19 answers · asked by ya ok....sure 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys do ask girls out. You seem to have a chip on your shoulder and most guys do not like that.
2006-12-26 12:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by shadouse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody likes rejection. You could do the asking too. I did that and am still with him after 10 months. He didn't mind at all. Took some of the pressure off of him to make a great "first" date impression because he knew I was already interested.
2006-12-26 20:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Preach it, sister! Men have been browbeat into being sissies.
It's hard to have a good answer in this forum, but consider this short story:
A neighborhood boy knocks on my door and tells me my son is playing in the mud. I say, "Okay" and look at him for the rest of the story. Totally confused, he repeats himself. He knows he's not allowed to get dirty. Not my boy. I get him pocket knives, BB guns, tell him to play in the mud and (gasp!) don't have a hissy fit if he rides his bike without a helmet.
Boys are supposed to be boys, but their mommas anymore aren't letting them. No wonder they grow up looking for cues from their momma or their girlfriend/wife.
2006-12-26 20:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by MithrilHawk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay- Zena
cool your jets girl!
I was just like you for many many years-then I got the clue and figured it out- it came with years of pratice and a better understanding of me and my need to have a mate.
everybody, including boys and men, need to be needed!
So whether you can "out do him" in every way, let him feel the "man". They are hardwired to protect, so let them, it may not be the exact way you want- that's okay. They are gentle creatures that need us.
Kick A in the real world and be kind at home. Even the hulk had a soft side.
2006-12-26 20:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by Denise W 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because of 'sexual harassment' laws, whining women who feel they are being 'objectified' and the fact that the world has become one big video playback. Nobody wants to take a chance on being put down or made a fool of...and so, nobody gets the benefits. No guts, no glory. Your turn, ladies!
2006-12-26 20:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's about power. The person asking another out is giving up power to the person getting asked.
Men are realizing this and changing tactics.
2006-12-26 20:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they are just afraid of you, some women who seem to be independent and confident run off men because of a past experience and being shot down
2006-12-26 20:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by PhillyDude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are they so afraid to ask us women out??? Pride, fear of rejection.
why do we always have to do it?? None of the above would be involved.
who is supposed to have the balls??? Guys, bit not on romantic stuff.
PS This is not my opinion, but that's what I hear from guys talking
2006-12-26 20:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by tyndaris2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know sweetheart, it's tragic. So why don't me and you hop in my truck we'll round a few of em' up and tie em' to the peir for high tide.
2006-12-26 20:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by NIGHTSHADE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you live or what kinds of men you're surrounded by, but where I come from honey there are still plenty of guys (myself included) who are willing to take the risk of asking out women.
Asking out a woman is the most difficult thing any guy has to do. No offense hun, but you make it sound as if it's like a walk in the park.
One of the most baseless assumptions that women make about men is that we're insensitive jerks who only care about getting inside a girl's pants before we get back to our football game on ESPN.
Women feel that, based on this, they have the right to tease us mercilessly, mislead us, play silly games with our heart and then stomp on it.
Men have feelings too, and one of the reasons men are afraid to ask women out is because of our fear of rejection. And it's not because we're afraid of having our "macho" ego bubbles burst - it's because we're more or less like little boys inside, with fragile self-esteems.
I've asked out and been rejected by a lot of women, so I know how bad it hurts. What really hurts even more than the rejection itself is "how" some women choose to let me down, almost as if they have absolutely no empathy or respect for my feelings.
I think maybe your problem is that you're playing too hard to get. We men will pursue a woman we're interested in, but we're not going to follow her around and make ourselves look like some psychotic stalker and belittle our dignity in the process.
Any guy who has the guts to ask a woman out deserves your respect. Yes, you're right to think that the man should be the one doing the asking out. But it's your responsibility to make yourself approachable. If a guy starts to strike up a conversation with you and you're interested in him, you have to reciprocate. Don't turn your back on him or walk away from him and then expect him to follow you around and ask you out another ten times before you eventually decide to say yes.
Make eye contact with him, follow his small talk up with some of your own, and smile at him. He'll be asking for your number before you know it. =)
2006-12-26 20:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by Student 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋