Ok the last question was whats the big deal if hook up with ex while we are still single and of course everyone told me bad idea (we were together for 10 years engaged for 6). So I gave in tonite and he did start talking about regreting the breakup so I told him not interested in the whole feelings thing I just want the sex, So he agreed and said no feelings,. Am I leading him on even though I told him it's just sex?
2006-12-26 12:10:23 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Although everyone is telling you that it can never work. I'm living proof that it can. Only trouble is that ONE of you will find someone else and you both have to be ready for that happening. In saying that, it depends competely on the people. I have been a friend with benefit to an ex boyfriend for about 8 years and we handle it just fine. We work better this way and neither of us ever has a problem when we are in another relationship. We just put our thing on hold. We can come and go in each others beds while remaining friends when we are not doing that. It works for us and it might work for you two. It all comes down to the people involved.
2006-12-27 17:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you were leading him on, since you were VERY upfront about the whole "only want sex" thing. As long as you have sex (no cuddling) and leave. Sounds like he is not going to handle it exactly the way you want him to handle the "only sex" thing. He still has feelings for you, and you can't stop that, so he is going to get hurt. Why can't you find friends w/ benefits else where besides the ex? That is, if you don't want to hurt his feelings and keep the friendship part alive.
My own personal female opinion.
2006-12-26 12:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by Girls M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN! The guy has already said he is still attached to you, take off and cut the cord. Both of you have been in each others head for 10 years that's not easy to walk away from, and having one more fling is normal but it can't be regular. Neither of you will be able to fully move on, you will just fall back into old routines.
Your friends are right "bad idea" move on and make a new friend with benefits.
From a guy that's been there in your shoes!!
2006-12-26 12:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by evt033 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it NEVER works out!
either your in the relationship or out of it.
I tried it once with a girl I had broken it off with several years before, she suggested the whole friends with benifits thing after we ran into one another at a party and ended up together for the night. I thought it was a good idea when she suggested it untill about 2 days later when it became clear that it was a ploy to keep me in her life long enough to convince me that we should restart the relationship.
2006-12-26 13:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by JJC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Truth Is The Truth
2006-12-26 12:16:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you just move on? you wont have to deal with all that drama. what if it was switched around and he wanted those terms, just to bang you when he wanted? if you use him, it will come back on you sooner or later. you are settling for sex, arent you worth more?
2006-12-26 12:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FWB; all the fun, without the drama.
2006-12-26 12:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by Answer Police 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-12-26 12:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no as long as u told him upfront that it is "only" sex HAVE FUN!!!!
2006-12-26 12:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by mistyriver69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋