Ok so i find messages on my gf's inbox off another guy (quite flirty ones to say the least!)But no replies in outbox-desposing of evidence?. She got really angry about me reading her messages and deffensive. Her excuse was along the lines of her friend didn't have a phone so this guy text my girlfriends phone as a way of passing them on, but apparantly she has got a phone now. I found this a bit suspect since her friend was on holiday at tyme! mmmm. Anyways i trust(ed) and believed her as weak of a excuse it was.
Since it happened I'v been having to do all the communicating...shes totally off with me whereas before she would text and phone all the time...however i don't know what to think anymore.
Is she messing me about? Im not the best for diving into confrontation so its bothering me but i dont say anything to her...Wasting my time? leave her? Thanks.
2006-12-26 11:58:45 · 11 answers · asked by mr_woowoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my ex did the same thing. yes, it was wrong of us (me and you) to go through their phones, but don't you feel better now that you have a clue what's possibly going on behind your back?
relationships with a strong foundation built on trust survive. if you dont' trust her, it will eventually tear you apart.
it does sound kinda fishy that she's not talking to you anymore. tell her that if she's not willing to communicate, then you are not willing to committ.
2006-12-26 12:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by *~HoNeYBeE~* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you just talk to her friend that she is supposed to be telling this stuff to from this other *GUY*? Or just come right out and tell her that you want the truth and if she does not give you the truth then you are thru with her. No one deserves to be lied to or cheated on in a relationship, I dont care if it is just a boy friend and girl friend or a married relationship. That is just dishonesty and it makes the other person feel like they are worthless and not good enough. But the truth is, You were good enough. Because you are the one who has been true in the relationship and didnt go cheating on the other person. So just be honest with her, if she lies, get rid of her, you are better off my friend. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-12-26 20:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle_204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just a guess here but it sounds very suspect and I'd have a problem with it. PLUS her defensive posturing only makes her look more guilty.
I'd personally give this relationship a rest until she starts communicating and explaining more than she has... and I wouldn't go out of my way to plead for an answer or a discussion.. that's up to her.
2006-12-26 20:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is being honest, and the fact you dont trust her is pushing her away further.
TALK to her - and try to resolve it - that way you can both get on with your lives - either together or seperate.
Try not to let it drag on - you dont want to get hurt, and if your relationship is not working - something has to be done before someone gets hurt
2006-12-26 20:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by schmushe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the key to the relationship once gone it's hard to get it back. Sometime are minds think of what you done in the pass that's why we get worried.
2006-12-26 20:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by melly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is being very flirtatious or maybe even cheating. This type of girl is not one to be settling down with. If you are looking for a steady relationship, you will not have it with her.
2006-12-26 20:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by tko43078 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first jus giv it some time
try to keep making dates wiv her
if she keeps bakin out of the dates then you should try to tell her how ur feelin
if shes always busy then she could be cheatin you
i say jus leave her then
if shes treatin u bad no1 deserves tht
2006-12-26 20:01:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if it feels like it's slipping away and you've tried to bring it back...
you've done your best.
i believe you should follow your instincts.
you already know what to do and good luck my friend.
2006-12-26 20:01:07 · answer #8 · answered by tami 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, learn some grammar.
2006-12-26 20:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by Katie T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's up to something and she's cleaning up her tracks very well...
2006-12-26 20:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by violet83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋