Well I just turned 15 and he is 18!!! I'm a virgin and I'm 100% sure i'm not ready and i wanted to wait till i was married!! We love each other very much!!! but i feel bad cuz he is 18 and never had sex!! So i told him maybe when i turned 18!! I'm confused what should i do!!!
2006-12-26 11:56:58 · 17 answers · asked by Jasmine T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's ok to date someone who's older, i personally like older men. but you should never, ever have sex until you are ready!! don't do it because you feel sorry for him, it will make you feel bad for going against what you want, trust me. if he loves you enough, he will be willing to wait until you are both ready.
2006-12-26 11:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by *~HoNeYBeE~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 15 and one thing you have to think of is at 15 or 18 you be ready to be a mother! because that's one of the possible consequences, if he loves you he will wait. Don't do it till your ready my hubby was 26 and a virgin till we married. It will be better when you wait. only you can make the best decision for you.
2006-12-26 20:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by elfsbabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wonder you are confused you still a young girl. You are way to young to even be thinking about things like this. I know when I was 15 I wanted a boyfriend so I know how you feel about that. But you are just way to young to even think about having sex or feeling guilty because you are not having sex. I think that is wonderful that there are still guys around who are 18 & still a virgin. But I don't understand why a 18yr old would want a 15yr old girlfriend.
First off is this ok with your parents? If not then you don't need to be sneaking around. As I tell my own 10yr old daughter I don't say no just to be mean. I say no for a reason and if she is willing to learn I will explain to her why I said no to her.
If this relationship is ok with your parents then right now you two should spend time together at your parents house while they are in the house. He should take the time to get to know your family and you. You two can spend time together watching tv, playing games and having dinner with your family. There is no reason in the world an 18yr old should be alone with his 15yr old girl.
As for a boyfriend being older than you it is ok as long as it is a legal relationship which yours isn't. If your boyfriend laid a hand on you he could be arrested.
When I was 18 I met my husband & he was 8yrs older than me. We dated for a few months and now we have been married almost 13yrs. We spent time together at my parents home watching tv, movies or playing games. I went to his parents house at times, went to church with his family & ate meals with his family.
Good luck & I would strongly suggest you talk to you mom or a trusting adult about this relationship. There are a lot of men these days who will hurt young girls. I was one of those years ago at just 17 when I met at 26yr old man. I know what I am talking about.
2006-12-26 20:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by Faith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way to young for him and way too young to have that serious a relationship you need to be hangin with your friends and not worrying about a date to have sex. Technically you are a minor and he's a adult so theres a statutory rape issue not to mention a pregnancy that can happen and he will run as fast as he can if that happens and you will be stuck with a baby when you should be planning what your going to be. Take my advice and not try to grow up too fast OK theres a really big world out there and you want to be a part right !!!!
2006-12-26 20:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by L J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you're only with him b/c you pity him b/c he hasn't been laid yet?
Oh wait you mentioned that you "love" him. I think dating a guy that is older is fine as long as it's legal. You don't want him to be in jail for having sex with you. Being a virgin at 18 isn't old. Is that all he is concerned about.. getting laid by some kid. If so then don't be used like that.
2006-12-26 20:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well it is ok to have a man older don't get me wrong. But as long as he does not try to force you to have sex you are ok. I am also 15 and was going with a guy that was 18. We both talked about it at times. But you have to control your hormones. Just becareful
2006-12-26 20:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by KK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be telling him that at 18 you will have sex!!!!
and also it is ok to have an older boyfriend, i'm 17 and mine is 20
2006-12-26 20:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by Latina Hottie! W.Chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont set a date to have sex... honestly if he loves you enough he will wait, its not gonna kill him, i am getting married in april and i waited, im 21 my fiance is a virgin too, its just better because your expectations will be the same, lol you dont have any, trust me im in the same boat as you, my fiance is older than me too, sometimes it gets heated but we agreed to wait. It will be special dont feel bad the longer it is the better it will be
2006-12-26 20:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by SB33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to my experience i was a virgin till 99. n i was also dating a guy several yrs older than me. to date i still hav regrets. bcoz in our mind we say we will only hav sex with the guy who will marry us. but that's not the case. loosing ur virginity is something unforgettable. u will rememberr all ur life. so to make the right choice is jaz wait till u r ready, best advice with the guy u love n the one u'r spending ur honeymoon with cause that will b ur longlife partner till death do u's apart.
2006-12-26 20:07:03 · answer #9 · answered by rex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young and your original plan is better than rushing into sex when you are not ready. You will know when you are ready and should not have sex with someone simply to accomodate them.
2006-12-26 20:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by mosaic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋