i need some advice, do i be stubborn or give in?

Question

ok so my dad is an asshole. 4 years ago my dad ****** up, did drugs, cheated on his wife, lost his job, and tried to kill himself. So D.Y.F.S came and took me and my brothers away, split us up and put us in different homes. it hurt, but i forgave him. 3 years after that he let me move back in with him.. but he had a new girlfriend.. whom happens to be puerto rican (not to be racist) but totally totally having nothing in common and much younger. her and i hated each other and it finally came down to the point where she made him choose. he chose her and kicked me out :/ . he did the same to my little brother. its been 3 months and he hasnt called. i emailed him twice but he replied to only one. he didnt even send a card, call or anything on christmas. he hasnt sent anything to my mom for child support and were struggling. im left breakin hearted because he just so happens to be my favorite person in the entire world...

what do i do?

Answer 1

Wow.

You have the right to have any favorite person in the world you want, and I shouldn't judge, but I must say that someone who AFTER messing everything up big time that you forgave once then chooses his girlfriend over you, kicks you out, kicks your brother out, doesn't send child support and doesn't call on Christmas is a strange choice as a favorite person.

There isn't anything you can or should do. You cannot change people and every choice in the world your "Dad" has made screams out he does NOT love you and does not care. It will not be easy but you must move on. Choose to be around people that DO care about you. And make sure your Mom is using every legal means to get whatever money she is entitled to.

Answer 2

Hun, I'm sorry to hear about your situation, I know how you feel, my mother was a single parent for 7 years before they found my dad and he never even pays child support to begin with, and when they found him, I wound up with a half brother and a stepmom, it turns out they were the reason he left us, at first I was very stubborn but later I learned that got me nowhere, your dad has a right to be happy, and now that hes clean of drugs you sould be grateful that hes not shacked up with a meth addict or something, you may not like her but your father does obviously, I used to make ugly remars towards my stepmom even about my half brother, but honestly if you just give it a chance and not think about the situation between your parents you will be alot happier and maybe then you can talk to your dad about the child support, he might even give your mom cash up front if you really need it and all she needs to do is let child support know that he gave her money and they will notarize it.Fighting isn't the best way to go, I just hope that this didn't break him back into the cycle and go back on drugs, just be supportive, no matter what your dad does, or says, you have to just love your parents. good luck

Answer 3

He has made the choice over and over to be a supreme loser. Too bad for him. You must now decide if you will have him in your life at all. If you choose to be around him at all, you are necessarily choosing a to be around a loser. You will pick up the ways of a loser and become one yourself. Stay away, grow up, get as much education as possible, and then move out on your own. The more education you have the more freedom from losers you will have in your future.

Answer 4

While it seems that you love your dad and just want to be a happy family with him involved, he doesn't care.

It sounds as though he's just looking after his interests.

While I wouldn't expect him to get back together with your mother, he should at least be concerned for your welfare.

Instead he chooses to live and take care of his girlfriend.

What should you do ? Move on with your life. The happy family situation is not going to happen with your dad. He has to WANT to change and make the first move to patch things up with you guys.

Answer 5

*please take this nicely* but if ur father choses some bimbo over his own family then u should only send a card on x mas and then aviod him the rest of the year. my dad ****** up a few years ago and i cant stand him anymore-but you should still have a small relationship between u and your father (in other words u can be stubborn because what he did was wrong)

Answer 6

This sort of thig happens everywhere everyday. you are not the only one. I for one do not know about this situation, but alot of my friends are going through something like it. I will tell you what i tell them. Give it all to God. He is there for you, you just have to except Him. You may think He's doing this to punish you....He's not! All He wants is for you to turn to Him! John 3:16 says "For God so loved the world that He gave his only begotten Son[[Jesus Christ]], that whosoever shall believeth in Him, shall not perish but have everlasting life." Life gives you tasks to overcome so you can grow. Forgiveness is one of the hardest things people deal with. Some people NEVER forgive those who have done wrong to them. I have learned [personally] that the more you hold grudges and not forgive people, the more you feel empty and alone. My advise is to look into God's Word. He'll show you what to do. He NEVER denies a cry from one of His children. And forgive your dad. Anyone willing to give up a son and daughter like he did..........my sympathy to you.
like i said. God is there...you just need to except him into your heart.
Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

forget him my biological father is an butthole and i want nothing to do with him. its his loss not yours just be the person you are
and go on with your life eventually your father is gonna want to come back in your life whether you choose to let him back in its up to you

Answer 8

Turn him over to God. Turn to God ,yourself. God is love.
The devil is hate.God will help you if you let him in your heart.