my 8 year old son was just diagnosed with severe cancer. it is predicted he will die within 12 months. how do i tell him. i dont want to scare him. i want him to enjoy what could be his last year.
2006-12-26 11:35:22 · 14 answers · asked by austin 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
u have 2 tell him. when don't u explain about the idea of heaven, but convince him its real, when he believes it tell him that quite soon he'll be going to 'the palace in the sky' to play fun games and eat chocolate forever, and never feel pain ever again. u need to explain to him what's going to happen before he goes so he doesn't panic when something scarey happens. chances are though he'll pass away in his sleep.
and don't forget urself. u need 2 prepare urself for this. it may be hard, but get all the info u can about whats going to happen to him. i am so so sorry that ur going through this. i lost my uncle to this monster, i can't imagin how hard it must be for a mother to lose a son to it.
2006-12-26 11:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by evilbunnyhahaha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow--that really is tough. I am so sorry.
I would sit with him and explain that the doctors have found something bad in his body. Explain that it's not his fault, and the doctors are going to try to fix him. Also help him go out and have fun this year. Take him to Disney World! Take him to the beach! Spend time enjoying being with him. Take lots of pictures and enjoy the memories. Don't mourn him while he's still alive.
2006-12-26 19:39:29 · answer #2 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows he's ill, right? If he doesn't now he certainly will. He's going to, at some point, ask for reassurance that he'll get better. If you lie and say yes, he'll know pretty soon that you weren't telling the truth. It would be my plan to help him grieve his coming loss of life. He'll be less frightened with knowledge than he will not knowing what is happening.
2006-12-26 19:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, that is a tough question and I'm sorry that you and your family are going through this. I don't know the answer to that, but I just wanted to say that I will be praying for your son and your family. My thoughts are with you.
2006-12-26 19:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by wendylotr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am soooo sorry, do you believe in G-d???? Tell him the G-d has decided that it is his time to pass. If not, tell him that he is very sick and that this may be his last year, thats all you can do, there is no "good" way to tell anyone this, tell him to have fun and enjoy what he has left and to appriciate everyday that is given to him, I am really sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-26 20:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as i look at your profile you a: arent a father of a kid with cancer because you are anwsering topics about kissing b: if you are a father of a kid with cancer maybe you should stop anwsering questions about kissing and maybe go spend some time with your dying son
2006-12-26 21:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by hi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him, the work Cancer would scare him, you enjoy him and let him enjoy whatever he can
2006-12-26 19:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats horrible, i'm so sorry. just let him know what he needs to, that he's sick, dont be all morbid with him. enjoy the time you guys have left. contact help fill a dream or that other wish one.
2006-12-26 19:46:59 · answer #8 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not tell him
no need to worry him
just have fun with him
if you do tell him he wont under stand
its hard for any one to take in
just let him be
and have the greatest time
2006-12-26 19:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with "hi", and as you are new you clearly havent realised THAT WE CAN SEE ALL YOUR Q'S AND A'S and you do not have a dying son do you, you attention seeking liar.
see there is just so many like you who claim outrageous things, so i always check the profile when its something like this.
2006-12-26 23:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋