and now i feal as though she's always around me dissapointed in me..
2006-12-26 11:34:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
iF SHE KNEW YOU LOVED HER THEN DONT FEEL BAD JUST GO VIST HER GAVE AT YOUYR OWN TIME IM SORRY FOR THE LOSS
R.I.P
2006-12-26 11:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by ?PARIS HILTON? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad...Your aunt was not at her funeral. She would rather be with you than watch a meaningless service. If you so much believe that the ritual you didn't participated and she is around you and disappointed in you, you're submitting two false acts. 1. It's your own guilt and 2. Satan enter into your mind.
Please allow me to give you one advice, ask God can your aunt come and talk to you and if God says yes, once your aunt is with you, you'll be comfort by her real presence, it will be her, not your own self guilt and Satan. Afterward, most of all, Thank God because He will always comfort you.
2006-12-26 19:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always a second chance wheither you realise this or not.
If she was alive, you will be able to do things that she would not have otherwise done and as she is watching you will be proud of you of having done this. So take heart that not because you missed the funernal (mind you other people may not made it), you will be able to grief for her in your own special time.
When you are ready, you will make it up to her in your own way knowing that she will appreciated what you have done that no one but you will know best.
2006-12-26 19:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Psionic2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are feeling guilt for not going and sadness for losing her. Next time, go to the funeral and you won't feel regret, but you will still feel sadness. You can't avoid the sadness. That's a part of life. You can avoid the guilt be doing the right thing.
2006-12-26 20:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please find someone to talk with. That could be a clergyperson (if that's acceptable to you) or any other qualified counsellor. And there are grief counsellors and peer groups. Your family doctor can help you to find one.
Remember, though, if you simply were unable to get there because of transportation problems or other commitments that you could not rearrange, then it's not your fault for not being there.
2006-12-26 19:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that your aunt knew that you loved her. Try not to keep thinking about it. In reality, she never knew whether you attended the funeral or not. Funerals are more for support of those who are left behind when someone dies than for the person themselves.
2006-12-26 19:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by SchrodingersTigress 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is your guilty conscience talking, not your aunt. As long as you were there for you aunt in life you should not worry about being there for her funeral. Remember how she was and celebrate that.
2006-12-26 19:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by WonderWoman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be absent from the body is to be present with the LORD!!! You'll be alright..
2006-12-26 20:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by JINE GIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is your own guilt making you feel that way, give it time, go visit her resting place and tell her how you feel, and you will both be at rest
2006-12-26 19:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by Mystee_Rain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And your mum/dad will put her in her place when it's their turn to go upstairs.
Deal with your mistakes, we all make them, just learn from them, ok?
2006-12-26 19:38:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋