I had a really bad break up with my boyfriend. We've been together for about 10 months,and after the break-up, i never felt like myself. I constantly think of him, dream of him, and feel like i can't move on. It's been 2 months already and i still can't forget about him. It was hard to stay together since we already tried a long distant relationship. He said he'd come back, but i'm worried he won't! How can i help myself move on? What should i do?
2006-12-26 11:30:59 · 20 answers · asked by annetteXskye 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give yourself at least a few more months before you expect to start feeling better. In the mean time, find a new hobby. Read more. hang with friends more.
2006-12-26 11:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by yowhatdoyouwant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drive to your best friend’s house for a shoulder to cry on. They will be able to make you laugh and say all the right things to make you feel better, such as: You’re too sweet, pretty, nice, popular, and smart for him.
CRY….have a long, good cry.
Eat plenty of ice cream; your emotions deserve it.
Box up all the things that he gave you, or that remind you of him. Put them in a box for a time when you’re less emotional and want to look back at them. Do not act hastily and throw out or burn things, you may want them in the future.
Print out all emails he sent you; gather up all letters he wrote you. Then, delete the emails and give the paper copies to a friend to keep in a safe place. This will prevent you from going back and obsessing over the emails, but they will still be there if you want them in the future.
Cut off all contact with him for at least a month; this will help the healing process because you won’t be talking to him all the time.
If he goes to your school, always look good. Don’t look like you’re trying, but always look good so that he regrets his decision.
When he does come back around, (because you’re too great of a girl for him to not come back), make him work for your attention. Even though you may still like him, make him think that he has to win you back, and that you have other prospects out there waiting for you.
The rest is up to you!
Tips
Relax. If he truly is the love of your life, things will work out for the best in the end.
Do not call him! Never, under no circumstances. This will make you look desperate to have him back. YOU DO NOT WANT THIS!
Stay busy. If you’re constantly doing something, you will have less time to think about him. This will also make you look more appealing to him because you’re busy. Guys always want what they can’t have.
Don't always be smiling. Constantly smiling to falsify your happiness can be creepy, and doesn't fool them.
2006-12-26 11:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by CAlifORniABABBAYY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words, always. So, if he does come back, then maybe he's for real.
Why don't you ask someone who knows what you should do? That is your Creator. He knows exactly what you need, and who you need. He made you, and HE doesn't make mistakes. He doesn't want you to be unhappy, that is not why HE created you. He created you to be happy and have a wonderful life. HIS timing is the secret. We never want to wait on God's timing. Try it, just this once. Especially now, when your heart is on your sleeve, and you sound a little depressed as well. Let go and give it to the ONE who made you. He will "speak" to you, just listen carefully. He wants the best life has to offer you, not this sadness and the pain of a broken heart.
Pray, just try it, what do you have to lose.
You're tired hurting, I'm sure.
Good luck
2006-12-26 11:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the hardest things on earth is to live with another person. It's about compromise. I don't think it's too soon as long as you're not making a large commitment. I wouldn't buy a house together yet nor would I add my name to a lease until I know we're not going to choke each other. Keep it casual and see how it goes for another 6 months. If you care about each other there is no harm in waiting.
2016-05-23 09:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can i was with some one for 7 years from 13 on to 21 im 24 nor and he cheated on me constantly and all i mean i was so depressed and all i mean i was down for almost 1 year we actually got married when i was 18. I got over him my friends had to get me out and meet as many guys not to do nonthing with but to hang out and at first it was just i got to guys that was so much like him so i felt ettracted and all and i could not let him know and so i didnt talk to him at all.. and i mean you need to stayout an dhang out as much as you can i met another guy at the following january and weve been together ever since i mean
and now we have 2 kids together and all and sometimes i still wander and think about him but i moved on i had to he was bringing me down and all i mean it was for the best and believe me if i can do it after that many years you can i have faith and all and i will prasy for you i know it is hard and all .
2006-12-26 11:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by crystal b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be a poor thing be strong and move on there are too many fishes in the sea to sit at your friends house and cry long cries and eat up a whole lot o' ice cream and spoil the figure. think of it this way "never cry over a man cause the one for you won't ever make you cry." socializin is the best thing to do or just find another man. don't go running after him cause he'll feel too special and when they feel too special they go doing the same things that hurt you befroe cause they know how special they are to you n that ur gonna welcome them w/ open arms reguardless of how he treats you. like i said be strong in yourself, you're worth more than that life is too short to waist precious time sittin at home in pain. let Beyonce` "irreplaceable" be for you n her n put his stuff in a box "TO THE LEFT" ;-) . lol, live free n enjoy your days to the fullest
2006-12-26 11:56:34 · answer #6 · answered by REALITY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going through a break-up is never easy. Just take it a day at a time. Pick up some hobbies, hang out with friends...find things that make you happy and fill your time with them!
2006-12-26 11:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by Creampoof737 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about him. Throw away everything he gave you, Don't feel sorry for him , He took something away from you like your self -esteem. Don't wait around for him there plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-12-26 11:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by melly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to forget about him or maybe you can find a guy friend who can sit down and talk to so you can forget about him.
2006-12-26 11:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's Going to be tough in the winter months.
2006-12-26 11:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋