I like this guy but he thinks I like someone else?

Question

So there's two guys - Let's call them M & N. The problem is difficult for me because I liked M for nearly two years and I talked about him alot with N. About a month ago I finally asked M out and he said no but I haven't told N or anybody else because it's so embaressing and I haven't talked about him in general. So now I like N and he's my best friend so we're really close. Yesterday night N and I talked on the phone and I told him I didn't like M anymore and he was like, "Sure you don't" and I told him I didn't again and he was like "Riiight." How do I get him to believe me? If I asked him out the first thing he would probrably ask me is, "What about N?" Help?

Just thought I'd add some background info to my post. I did like N at one point but at that time he liked someone but he told me he doesn't like her anymore. I've only known him for about 5 months and became friends with him only in the past 4.

Answer 1

okay 2 years is to be like enouph time as adults to know when is the right time to drop the bomshell without past relationships popping up any way u are smart u did the healthy staght up right thing u cleared the air some what 4 the next situation wich will happen if thats where the heart is and God decides this is your path a date or lesson from a damn nightmare all in all keep your head up because i can feel youare a smart women by the way you present yourself on the real girl it sounds like u got head on right by the approach straight up, honest and in my opinion that all u had to do if dude wants to question u and what not he should b able to protect his heart just as much as u best friends ive heard make it in relationships if done the right way what u are dealing with is more time and if u truly dig m then respect his q,(u feeling me on this ) b cuz he being ure best friend he probably remembers all the best friend talk and now even though he dont know if he is your best frind future woo! Woo! what not? heactully does know girl if he is the one 4 you and its all good and real thean the eyes never lie and actions speak louder somtimes you are brave and very upbeat it seem s but sometimes rejection is just life and if people like n reject u than talk or gossip then he just wasnt mature or ready for u yet and maybe u have been protected from worse things .u know just do what u do be your damn self and dont worry about the others or u may have felt emmbarrest on the inside and even if u were on the outside than o mf well theres a whole world an oppritunities for a good person like u .so let me finish my rambling ..watch yourself ,keep your smile ,be fun be u cross your T",sdot your eyes and keep being best friends un til u feel its right dont talk about N .anwerm by saying what about him . hes a friend case closed juge says next case gives time to pay the fine if it dindt work u know the rest same thing u b the gudge. just remeber hes watching and himself a little scared all inall make sure the frindship stays on real and stong regardless. well im out i hope that helped a little this is tupak saying keep your head up GOD BLESS

Answer 2

This one is kinda touchy, because if you tell N that you asked M out and he said no then N might think he is your second choice. And that doesn't set well with most people. That would be like a guy asking one of your girl friends out right in front of you and she says no, so he just turns around and says "well, what about you? You wanna go out sometime?" (That has happened to me before, and it feels crappy to think that he is only asking you out because he doesn't want to be alone on a Friday or Saturday night.) How would that make you feel? So, I would suggest you not telling N you asked M out and he said no, but maybe try and let N know in some other ways. Like body language (tastefully though, don't throw yourself on him), maybe try a little flirting to let him know you are serious. Then give it time, if he comes around, then GREAT!! But if he acts not interested, then give him time, but still be friends, and maybe he will come around.

Answer 3

If you and N are pretty close, you can start by asking him to go places with you. Move in gradually and see how he responds. Do you want to go out with your best friend? The problem with asking him out is that if he says yes, then you can break up. Right now, you and he can really enjoy each other and stay friends no matter what. Hmmmm. Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

First of all, I hope you aren't latching on ole faithful...because Mr. wonderful turned you down...If you didn't recognize that ole faithful was wonderful before, I question if it isn't a case of just wanting someone....If this is the reason you are now "deciding" to like ole faithful...be faithful to him (as a friend) and don't go after him...He deserves someone to want him for the right reasons. At the very least, I would encourage you to go very slow....and make sure the attraction is for the right reason, for both of you. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Find a time to sit down with him. Look him straight in the eye, and tell him how you feel.

Tell him that your conversations led you to discover that it was the conversations that mattered, not the subject. Tell him, you want the conversations to continue but not about M any more but about you and N.

Good luck

Answer 6

Talk to him about him and maybe you would have to tell him that guy N turned you down cause that would be the only way he would believe you.Since hes your bestfriend it might not be a good idea to date him cause you might lose him forever.

Answer 7

well, tell N that you ask M out, even though it might be a little embrass. he'll understand. and that you are over M and now you are interested in someone else and that person is him. tell him that you are 100% serious about this.

Answer 8

Just say I dont like N I like you got it he will believe u then

Answer 9

be straight out and tell the guy like you told all of us strangers.

do it do it do it

Answer 10

dont tell him u like him, he might embarrass you too! if you dont talk about the other guy he will catch on!