when did you let your daughter?

Question

go over to friends homes with out you?

i have only meet the mom once at a party.

they want to have a play day at her house

both girls are 8,

the kids go to school together and they place is well kelt and all, but the girl has a older sister who is like 15/16 and i really do not like her

Answer 1

I don't know, but just wanted to say kudos for being a good parent. A lot of parents now a days don't care like they used to. They don't care about the parents their children are hanging out with, and they don't care if they know the other family or not. Go with what your gut instinct, and again, way to go on protecting your child!

Answer 2

Well at one point or another, our children will have a friend that has an older sibling we dont think very much of. Considering the two younger girls are at least five years younger than the older sister, most likely they would not mingle with the older sibling.
If you feel like you trust the other girls' parents try a short playdate, to test the waters, and when she comes home look at how she behaves. If you feel like you want to get to know the other mom better,plan a get together for the four of you. Or you can invite the girl and her mother over to your house,for a playdate. both of these offer you the opportunity to get to know the other parent.
Now days, its better to keep a closer eye on your children,because of all the different types of "strange" people out there. Follow your gut always. You will know when the time is right for the both of you when to fly solo. Just make sure you let your child know she can always call you,if she needs to, and make sure you always leave a contact number,that you can be reached at. Play it safe and Good Luck

Answer 3

i would speak to the friend's mom first. make sure what the girls will do, who will be there and when it will be over. i think for a first time, to keep it relatively short - a couple hours and then pick up the child.
i wouldn't think a 16 year old would want to have much to do with a couple of 8 year olds - i know i didn't when i was 16. if the older daughter is old enough to drive, make sure it will not be she who drives your daughter on the outing. as a mom also, the other mom should sympathize with your concerns...if she doesn't, or is offended, i wouldn't let your child go there on a playdate, but maybe suggest the friend come to your house.

Answer 4

If you are that worried about her well being at the aquaintence
from schools house that your daughter wants to only visit you
should feel lucky she was not asked to spend the night...
Anyways if you feel that strongly about the visit ,sit down and
remind your daughter of her behavior for visiting,what she should expect from others behavior ,according to what you believe and
to expect the same respect if thats what you believe .
Give your daughter a curfew to the time you will pick her up.
Maybe you can be busy and only allow her for one to two hours.
You can always visit while she is there to see how things are going or bring a treat ?Talk to the hopefully mature eldest there?
What have you.After all she is only nine and this sounds like her first visit.P.S If you really really feel that strongly about your
daughters well being and safety.Have plans for the invited date.
You all planned to go see a movie ....and go! You had a dinner
date with your family..Go! ??? Maybe you do....

Answer 5

The only problem I can foresee is that when parents have teenagers, they feel freer to leave the house, and the teenager in charge. I have 3 children, 10, 8, and 2. This has happened to me on several occasions I found out after the fact that mom/dad left and only the teenager (whom I too did not like or trust) was left in charge.

Better to have the playdate at your house. If there is something about the teen you don't like, your instinct is probably right.

Answer 6

I would get to know the mother better before I let my 8 year old daughter go to the other house without me. Suggest that the other mother and the two girls go out on a play date or to a movie. That way you get a better chance to know what the mother is like.

Answer 7

you may have met the mom but that does not mean you know who comes in and out of her home. i do not put anything past anyone. if you want your child to stay for a play date, i would advise you to stay with her, it won't hurt. if you are uncomfortable with the situation period then follow your first mind! i do not leave my children anywhere alone, i also have an 8 year old daughter as well as a 5 year old. if all else fails, just have her friend come to your house, that would make you feel a whole lot better. hope that helps.

Answer 8

If you're not sure maybe you could stay there with her for the first play date and socialize with the mom while your daughter plays with her daughter, easier to know whats going on if your in ear shot of things. Easier to get to know the other mom, too. Most 15/16 year olds don't want their 8 year old sisters hanging around with them, I don't there is too much to worry about there.

Answer 9

I just started letting my daughter go over to the neighbors to play both girls are six. But I met with them a few times first got a phone number and had the other girl here twice before I was ready to let her go. Problem now is she wants to go all the time and I'm just not ready for that yet.

Answer 10

I was only allowed to go over to friends places when my mother new the other mothers quite well. Infact i was never allowed to sleep over anyones hosue until I was 16, up until then I was only permitted to spend the night at cousins place and my grandparents. You don't know what other guests will be at this person's house that may take advatage of your precious little girl.It is much better to be safe then sorry, accompany her on the play date, get to know the mother, ask questions about visitors/relatives step family that might be living inthe same house. Like I said BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY. Hope this helps.