What is the one toy that I can get a 4 year old boy that all kids would be envious of?

Question

My son has a little cousin who gets everything and he is constantly making my son feel bad and not letting him play with his stuff because his parents/grandparents buy him the world. There has to be something that I can get my son that will make him feel important... I know it shoudlnt be material things but we all know how we felt when we were kids and I know I am poor currently but I will do what I can to make him feel just as good even for a moment.

Answer 1

get him a playstation 3 he will be the envy of all kids then

Answer 2

I do understand what you mean and how you feel but >
As there is nothing you could buy that the spoilt little brat's parents or Grandparents couldnt go out and buy too and would if the brat wants it, you are wasting your time and money!
You will end up with a spoilt child and in debt if you start buying him things for that reason.
Your son IS very important to you, so make sure you tell him that and how much you love him. Teach him the truth about life now, (there will always be people who have things he'll never have!)

Answer 3

From the sound of you he already has the most important thing in life, love. Never try to `keep up with the Jones,` it is a waste of time and money. There is one gift that never fails to make a boy happy; a flash-light! A small one so that he can read at night under the bed clothes; and a larger one for shining around the room when it is dark. Boys of all ages love torches, and you will not believe how envious other boys will be, after all it isn`t really a toy; it is a `grown-up` thing.

Answer 4

wow dont you think this is very petty. YOUR Son will always remember YOUR LOVE and not some dumb toy. I grew up poor too and I remember so many wonderful things my parents did with me more than any gift they ever got me.
Try to focus on what is important and he will have all the confidence in the world. Make him a king crown out of construction paper, or let him dress up silly for the day everywhere you go

Answer 5

The marble set seems particularly cool, even regardless of the indisputable fact that it particularly is going to nevertheless be slightly troublesome for the 4-3 hundred and sixty 5 days-old to construct finding on the youngster. wood blocks are constantly a great toy, and that they get years of on and rancid play. and that they are not old college, yet different styles of blocks like Legos would be countless relaxing, too. Craft components are great at any age as nicely -- crayons, markers, chalk, stickers, popsicle sticks, shape paper, pompom balls, google eyes, and so forth. do no longer forget play kit -- balls, leap ropes, and so forth. Any type of toy person will probably get a great type of play, too. babies have performed with small wood and/or plastic figures for a while. have relaxing figuring out to purchase!

Answer 6

Do you realise what you have just said there? you can't stand the fact that this other little boy has more toys than your little boy, You never said it but you probably feel that your nephew is a spoilt little brat...although it's not buying lots of toys that make them that way....yet here you are willing to go to any length in order to turn your little boy into the same. You as a Mother have so much to learn.

I would hazard a guess that it isn't your little boy at all that feels so bad about the behaviour of his cousin but in fact it's you. It's you that feels envious because you're making the mistake of measuring love with material goods.

A 4 yr old child knows little about guilt...Racism…Shame...Envy...Or keeping up with the Jones's...not until we as parents start to build it in them. If his cousin is bought stuff & allowed to act spoilt then that's hardly the little boys fault is it? Why oh why would you want to make your child the same. Why would you want to make a small child experience envy?

Worse still you are about to embark on passing on that feeling to the child you claim to love so much.

Do you know the worse thing that as parents we can do for our children? It’s to give them everything we never had...Buying lots of toys for our children...within reason...Isn’t actually what spoils them, it's the attitudes that we allow them to have which we so un-wittingly & so easily ingrain into our little off-spring all by ourselves. You’re not comfortable with the way you feel, why would you wish for your child to experience those same feelings. Why would you want to turn your lovely little boy into something spiteful?

Buy your little boy a new toy by all means if you wish to but be very careful the attitude you wrap it with sweetie. This could..no..will...come back & bite you on the butt.
You can fool yourself into believing that it's lots of material goods that somehow spoil a child, but you'd be oh so wrong...what you're about to do will be spoiling your child....why on earth would you want to do that?
I’ll tell you now…there’s nothing that comes in a packet that will make your son important. There are many adults in the world that feel important to themselves…that however, doesn’t mean that they are.

Answer 7

Teach him good manners and praise his good bahaviour in front of the family members that think material rewards are better, love him and encourage him to share his toys even though you think they are not good enough for the cousin (believe me they will be!) An expensive toy will only make him feel good short term but being brought up to be a child that can be grateful for what he has regardless of cost, knowing how to conduct himself properly and knowing that you are proud of him for his good behaviour will reap far better rewards long term. Kids don't know the cost of toys - and if the cousin grows up to be a spoiled brat that thinks the world owes him then be glad that your child won't!

Answer 8

Why would you want to "keep up with the Jone`s " ?
That kind of attitude is stupid do you want your kid to turn out like his cousin ?
Teach your child manner`s and respect and to learn to share thing`s in life !
give him love and attention that is all he need`s !
you teach him right and he will grow up a good man who will be respected not hated like his cousin probably will be !
I know it is hard to do but try not to compete with this child`s parent`s ( it`s not the cousin`s fault it`s his parent`s/grandparent`s)
if you keep on trying to compete your child will do the same with his kid`s / grand kid`s and they will do the same to there`s a never ending story !
End it now !
Before it get`s out of hand !
If you feel you must then put your money to good use and " adopt " a tiger / elephant or one of the other animal`s that are in danger of becoming extinct !
you will get photo`s of the animal / certificate`s etc .
Now that is something i guarantee the cousin has`nt got !!!!

Answer 9

you should not indulge your children especially if you cannot afford it material p[possessions are not the be all and end all the child is four the trends for children change so rapidly by next week the toy you blew all your money on the child may resent the best present for the child would be your love remember love cant be gift wrapped or bought and maybe if your nephew id making your child feel bad maybe you should stop them playing together

Answer 10

Forget the material competition. Just love your son....in the end he'll win.

I had a friend who's parents never told him "no". Upon graduation he hugged his Home Ec. teacher and told her he loved her because she was the only one who taught him how to live....the only one who ever told him "no".

Material gain is nothing. Your son doesn't need it to be a "somebody" to his cousin. Teach him pride and confidence in himself. Teach him that HIS worth isn't measured by what he HAS but by who he is INSIDE. And if his cousin continues to be the way he is....maybe he's just not worth hanging around.

Answer 11

My son's big present at 4yo was a gameboy advance. At that age they are too young for a gameboy DS but the advance is perfect- you can even play nickelodeon and other videos.

Or you can send him to tae kwon do.. that has done wonders for my son's self confidence.