Okay. So this is going to be kind of long. I'm a freshman in high school. I'm in the band. And I've never had a 'boyfriend'. At the begining of this school year, I found out that one of the sophmore's in the drumline liked me and he started talking to me a lot and he was acctualy kind of cool. And I think around the first of October he asked me to homecoming and I said yes.
So we went to homecoming together, and I thought it was pretty fun. But after homecoming (October 21), he just stopped talking to me and I'm not really sure why. I don't think I did anything wrong. And yes, I have tried talking to him but he just ignores me.
So here comes the point of this whole thing. It's been more than 2 months since then, and I can't stop thinking about him. And I'm really not the type to get hung over on a guy. So can anyone tell me what this means...please??? Or give me some sort of assurance. It's driving me nuts!!! :/
2006-12-26 11:05:43 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well..honestly, there's alot of things it sounds like to me. Maybe he thought he liked you and after home coming (assuming you didn't do anything extreme with him, as you sound like an intelligent girl), he decided either A) he didn't like you like he thought he did, B) he's with someone else, or C) he just simply wanted to go to home coming with you just so he'd be able to say he had a date (and perhaps a beautiful one at that. I can't judge there).
I won't tell you to forget him immediately, as I know that's really hard to do. So, since he won't talk to you, you could write him a note and give it to him (slip it into his backpack or something if you must), and tell him how you feel and you want to know why he's ignoring you, etc. If he doesn't responde, then I say just drop it and move on, as he's obviously not worth your time (I'm not even sure he is anyway if he's treating you like that).
I'm not real experianced with this sorta stuff but that's just my suggestion. Good luck to you, and hope it works out. :)
2006-12-26 11:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by 2D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the boy just did not know how to be cordial or kind when it comes to accomplishing a big goal such as asking a girl out and actually following through with it. It sounds as though he has "no home training". Don't worry it's not you, some people are not trained well or neglect to keep what they have been taught. To him you may have been merely an achieved goal and nothing else. It's horrible when people don't understand that you have feelings, huh? For some people you are going to be seen as "trial and error" until the real guy for you comes along but at least it helps you gather data on the kind of guy you want and don't want. In due time you will be able to avoid losers a mile before they get to you. Good for you!
2006-12-26 19:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was your first date, I believe that is why you are having a hard time with it. It's evident that he now wants nothing to do with you! I hope you didn't go all the way with this jerk for your sake! He may
come back at some point with a BS story, If I were you I would tell him to just keep right on walking and not to bother you any more as he has already shown you what a jerk he is!
2006-12-26 19:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little suspicious of this.... Are you sure you didn't do anything? But, really, it doesn't matter, because it's been two months. Two months means it's time to get over this guy and move on. It wasn't that long ago I was your age and thinking that each time a relationship failed it was the end of the world. My point is, life goes on. Get over it and put yourself back in the dating game.
2006-12-26 19:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by Creampoof737 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really explain this,I am 21(almost 22),and I still can't figure out why guys do the things they do.They are a mystery.I think maybe he was just looking for a date.Or maybe he was looking for you to sleep with him.Or(it's a longshot)but maybe someone told him a rumor about you that isn't true that he may have not liked.I don't know sweetie,but heres what I can do for you,just hang in there,there will be other boys.:)
2006-12-26 19:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by greeneyes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has moved on, however do you have his telephone number?
Its Winter break right....call him. Talk to him and ask.
It would be better to hear it from him then us.
You're feelings are completely norm, it would drive me nutty to go on such a date and then bingo no communication what so ever.
However I would think he just chose to move on if you need closure or want to know more I would call.
Either way know that every relationship is a learning experience and if you had a great time.....put that in your memory book.
Best wishes
2006-12-26 19:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a freshman so you have quite a few more years to put up with all this high school bull ****. Guys are idiots, that will change when you're older. For now just try not to think about him to much. Attempt to move on. You're young, you'll get over it.
2006-12-26 19:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by Katie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He found that you weren't the kind of girl he thought you were. That's not a bad thing. Better to find that out early, rather than 6 months later. You'll meet another boy. Just be yourself and let boys see who you really are. If they ask you out, then you'll know it's because of who you are, rather than who you pretend to be.
2006-12-26 19:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's so up himself your dress or something did not meet his image at the homecoming put it down to experience that there are such undesirable people around and go have fun your alright.
2006-12-26 19:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably decided you weren't his type and has forgotten about you and the date. You are hung up on him because he was your first date and you really want to know why he doesn't talk to you anymore. We can't give you the answer and you might never know so just chalk it up to a lesson learned about boys and dating.
2006-12-26 19:10:32 · answer #10 · answered by justme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋