2006-12-26 11:03:19 · 40 answers · asked by Danielle M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've been dating for over a year, I found him in our home. He died in his sleep. He was 29, and I'm 20. About 2 months ago, his bestfriend died, and then 2 weeks later my best friend died. He past away on the 15th.
2006-12-26 11:13:44 · update #1
Try to keep you mind occupied, hang with good freinds and family
2006-12-26 11:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by tmerring1964 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I am terribly sorry to hear about your loss. I can't even begin to imagine the pain you are in. Whenever you lose someone who was a huge part of your life it is devastating! Not only that, but it can change your life and how you look at things. I would immediately join a grief group, or see a psychiatrist, or someone you can talk to. You need to be surrounded by people whom you love too. It is never good to be alone. You probably had him by your side a lot, so make sure someone whom you love is by your side now. I know that at first you may probably just feel like sleeping and crying but, getting up and doing anything will help. You could take an exercise class, or find a hobby to take your mind off the situation for awhile. The longer time comes by, things will become easier. I am sorry again, and I hope you can get through this with love.
2006-12-26 11:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by BUTTERCUP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I am sorry to hear that. Its tuff but you need to slow down a bit.Grief is a thing that takes time.Yes its hard to feel comfortable because your mind is constantly thinking about this and you don't want to keep feeling bad, but sometimes feeling pain out gives alot better closer.
If I was you just spend time with friends and family that you love and love to be around and focus on getting through each day. Time will heal the wounds of losing someone.Before long you will love again and since you were willing to let yourself grieve, you will have a comforting memories in your heart and mind for the one who passed instead of just loss as a memory.
Good luck.
2006-12-26 11:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that. When my boyfriend died I wrote down my feelings and a lot of poetry. If you write it out you will start to feel better. You will always miss him but you have to move on to. He would want you to be happy not sad. How did he die, if it's not to hard to talk about? My best friend of two years and bf the last 7 months of his life died Feb. 2, 1997.
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Never forget him always cherish your times with him and all these other answers of forget him, they are shallow and have no Idea of your pain. I have been through this and I know how it is.
2006-12-26 11:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by WINGS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have close friends to console with, you can look towards a group that deals with greiving those who have lost significant others; visit a bible believing church and talk to a pastor or pastor's wife; pray. I know it is a difficult time...you now need time, support, and finding things that you can do to build yourself up...especially (assuming) if most of your time has been spent with your boyfriend. But talking to others and remembering him can be a starter to help you. There's an additional link that talks about setting certain routines, exercising, etc..if you're also having diffulty sleeping. Hope this helps. Stay strong...it'll take time.
2006-12-26 11:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by Kalena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear that. If you want to try and keep your mind off of it, I would try hanging out with some friends, doing activites, going for walks, shopping. It may be hard, I have never lost a love before but Im sure it's really hard for you. But try to live life and move on, it's harder said then done.
2006-12-26 11:09:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss.
There is nothing I can say to ease your pain, I wish there was.
Healing from a loss like this takes time Try to take each day as it comes, feel what you need to feel, no matter what anyone says, and give yourself time. It will get less difficult over time.
He is always with you.
I will keep good thoughts for you.
2006-12-26 11:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by Bliss 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try your best to stay strong and carry on. My mom died tragically christmas day. Outside the hospital a girl came up to me upset and asked to talk with me. Her schitzo brother had just opened her husbands brain up with a broken chair and he was dying. We shared a quiet smoke and in our tearless grief, all I could offer was what I said to you. Stay strong in your mind and life, be calm to the living, it is what any deceased would have wanted you to do.
2006-12-26 11:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by b-overit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss.as for what to do with your self is all to the individual I would like to be alone. maybe you should look up some of his friends and reconnect. it may help you all talking about him in several lights. again I'M sorry for your loss. I hope this helps a little
2006-12-26 11:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your having some serious problems coping with his loss see a therapist to get throught this time. And for God's sake make sure you dont do anything rash.
2006-12-26 11:07:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard for you, but you always remember him in your heart. you have to move on no matter what cards the world deals you. KEEP YOUR SELF BUSY doing activities you enjoy, and friends that make you smile. I wish you a safe journey.
2006-12-26 11:18:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋