I have been with this guy for 4 years have loved him to death but unfortunately did not get married & now he has found someone else & he is behaving so rudely. Was it love or was I mistaken ?are all guys like that when they find something else they turn into a total different person as if they dont know. He hurt me a lot by behaving like that I want to forget everything every little thing that ever happened between us. How can I? I dont want to deal with the frustration & pain I have to go thru because of him.
2006-12-26 10:50:11 · 17 answers · asked by rsus1230 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on. I know it is easy for me to say move on. But I understand how you feel. You can no longer force him to stay in your relationship if he has found someone new. Perhaps he is not really meant for you. Life goes on, no matter what happened. It is not the end of the world. Show him that he is the one at a loss. Pick yourself together, stand up and show him that you are undaunted; that his loss is of no consequence to you. He will gloat if he knows how you can't get over him. Don't give him that satisfaction. I am sure somewhere along the road, someone more deserving than he is will come along who will be loving you as much as you love him. Cheer up and chin up!!!
2006-12-26 14:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people can't deal with pain. He may be hurting too, depending on how long ago you two split, and the circumstances surrounding it. He may have also been putting on an act for his new girl. This doesn't mean he doesn't like you neccessarily, just that he doesn't want to offend her. If you don't want to deal with the "frustration and pain" then don't. You don't have to see him. Just give it some time, and don't mess with him. He may come to his senses later and he may not, the important thing is you have a life too, one with which you need to move on. Sometimes, even the best friendships need a cooling off period.
2006-12-26 18:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by gamegurl8504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know as much as us women love to think that all men are crum & dirt their not.Yes most men are,but not all of them.& the men we do find that are dirt,& no good jerks.just happen to be one more mistakes on our list.Men that acts like ur ex BF has no boundaries at all.meaning for one.He was that kind of person when u first met him,in which doesn't show right away.& their that way in the end.He just ended up not being the guy u wanted him to be.How to forget & get over him,well start dating right away,get out there & start meeting new people.be more sociable have fun,do exciting things to keep ur mind occupied.thats the important thing is to keep ur mind occupied & off of him.it may take some time,but than again it may not.U have to go w/ur instincts.hope this helps some.
2006-12-26 18:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by fanofcelebritymathersmarshall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met a girl, we married had two kids and then she did the same to me. I asked - "Are all women like that?" The answer - been re-married 10 years now with a woman who is not like that and I am very happy.
You say "unfortunately did not get married". I think on the contrary you are fortunate, the relationship was wrong and it went sour. Walk away, Mr Right is out there - just don't think all men are the same! We are not, and neither are all women.
2006-12-26 21:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by Draper T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i think you need to show him the way he is treating you does not bother you. maybe the more you show your feelings the more he is going to act out. just move on with your life erase all the bad things he has done he might come back and he might not at least you won't be so miserable you just might meet Mr. right if you do good luck and happy new year start over make that a new years resolution
2006-12-26 22:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by sjb_sparkles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...if he behaves with u rudely...then y are u behaving like a sati savitri...u also behave rudely with him.....yes u hav done a mistake making a lifepartner...no not all men r like that...so next time be careful......first know the person and then love...neva love a person by seeing his/her outlook...love his soul.
Insaan acha hona chahiye
forgetting him will be hard to do...so u become busy in some work...slowly he will vanish from ur memories...dont sit and cry thinking of him..that will make u more difficult to forget him..
and yea..i agree with Draper T..hes right
watever....dont worry...be happy.....njoy year 2007
Its me
May
2006-12-27 10:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys are not like that, this guy is bad. He shouldnt be rude even if the relationship is over. You need to move on if he doesent want to be with you, dont dwell too much over it.
2006-12-27 03:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by funnysam2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey no memmories nothing ....just think onece if he can do it why cant u ..its the truth of life which u have to accept and carry on dont get attached to any memories ...start a fresh new life take a deep breath take gods name and start new life all the happiness u will get and see that u dont have any memories of him ...u will win Good luck
2006-12-27 01:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by shiva k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just like that. They pretend they have good manners and always being polite. But when it comes to their own life and all, they can be REALLY rude! Just accept it honey, some people are just jerks!
2006-12-26 19:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by little asian gal in cresent city 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have good memories of being with him, keep them. Don't let what he did ruin those memories.
Everything else, get rid of it. Take his name off your speed-dial, off your address book, IM list, everywhere. Delete him from your life. Excise him as you would a cancerous mole.
And if you'd rather not have those memories, get rid of those too.
2006-12-26 18:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by lyoskowitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋