my cuzn an my boyfriend and alot of my other family to came to my house on chirstmas eve and and later on i found my them messing around omg this made me so mad i threw my cell phone at them and it hit my boyfriends head then i kicked him out im so mad at my cuzn yesterday an today and she kepts telling me sorry and yesterday she came in my room an started crying telling me all kinds of stuff i used to think she was so kool when i was little she was my faviort cuzn but i so hate her now an she is about to leave in like 45 mins and like a hour ago she came to me an started to hug me a crying saying she was sorry and i just walked away i feel bad for her but in away i hate her for it she was like my faviort cuzn i used to look up to her she is 24 an my boyfriend is 17 and she has a boyfriend that she is going to marry in like 5 months what would you do if you were in my situation ??do you think i should forgive her i know im am never going to talk my ex ever!
but i still love my cuzn...
2006-12-26 10:49:47 · 32 answers · asked by ?PARIS HILTON? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
but i still hate her for it and i never see her i maybe see her like once a year what do i do??
sorry so long
hope you had a better chirtmas!
2006-12-26 10:50:50 · update #1
family is family...
while it isn't right...she might have done you a favor.....showed you what kinda bf you had.
tell her your still angry at her for her actions..but you'll never stop loving her and just to give you some time to work it through.
2006-12-26 10:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by joschaos 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's 24..She didn't do this accidentally she just didn't care about anything but getting it on with your boyfriend. maybe she was just being slutty or maybe secretly she is jealous of you. Either way you are the one who is hurt not her. Sure she is sorry NOW! if you hadn't caught her do you think she would be so sorry. I wouldn't soften up on this because you have a right to be mad. If and when you forgive her it will be when it is right for you. If you said you forgave her now...would you mean it? no. You would just be saying it because you want things to be OK. wait until your hurt mends a little then think about her. Right now she doesn't deserve anything from you. Why should you let her off easy just because she came crying to make YOU feel guilty? I say turn your back and walk away and let her live with what she has done. If you want to forgive later, deal with it then. If she really wants your forgiveness she'll accept it when your ready. Shes damned lucky you don't tell her boyfriend. She has betrayed you and him.
2006-12-26 11:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all so sorry you had a bad Christmas, hope your New Year is better. Your boyfriend better be history girlfriend. Because if he cared about you he never would of messed around with your cousin in the first place. Your cousin has some issues. But she is still your cousin. Blood is thicker than water. She did you a favor anyway, she found out that your boyfriend was a player for ya. Forgive and forget. Take Care hun.
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2016-12-15 08:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by pfeifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get that you love your cousin, and your boyfriend, which makes them acting like animals even more disgusting from my point of view. What a couple of shallow jerks they both are.
You can forgive her if you want to, but I wouldn't trust her until she proved trustworthy for a looooong time. I am glad you ex'd the bf. I wouldn't waste time feeling sorry for the cousin or the boyfriend, crying or not. I wouldn't lose any sleep over her, but you can be polite if that works for you. So sorry they did what they did. They both suck.
2006-12-26 11:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That really sucks. I'd feel the same way you do. I would forgive her but I wouldn't be able to forget or be around her anymore. I would never feel able to trust her or my boyfriend again. They would both be out of my life permanently. Sorry you're going through that mess.
2006-12-26 10:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Omg that is a very bad sitution. The same thing happened to me with my boyfriend Mikey and he started messing around and flirting with my cousin christiana and I got soo mad i stormed out of his house and walked home alone and he was so sad that he didn't get to say goodbye and he felt bad that he did that to me. Knowing that im one of those people who hold grudges i still love my cousin but i broke up with him and now my cuzin is going out with him because i dont like him anymore and she does me and my ex are okay now but we're just friends and he knows what he did wrong. You should forgive your cuzin ( in a family way) but your boyfriend you definlely shouldn't forgive. I STILL REGRET I FORGAVE HIM but im going out with his cousin! so we're even!
2006-12-26 10:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by jazzy*fizzle 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
your cousin is not too cool you may speak again but i doubt things will ever be the same and i am sorry that 2 people you really cared about hurt you. as for your ex you are better off moving on because there are character issues there and thank god you found out before you married him etc good luck and happy new year
2006-12-26 10:57:33 · answer #8 · answered by ken j 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Wow, this is really tough I think if you CAN forgive your cousin it would be better for you. When you do not forgive some one you are the one that hurts. But forgiving and trusting are two very different things. You should always watch your cousin carefully but really in the long run she helped you out of a bad situation with a guy that would cheat on you. So yeah forgive her.
2006-12-26 10:55:21 · answer #9 · answered by Wenz 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Your cousin made a mistake. It is certainly ok to be poed on your part. Talk it over with your cousin when you're not so angry anymore. Tell her you've lost respect for her, but you still love her. and NEVER talk to your ex again!! way to kick him out!! He doesn't deserve you!
2006-12-26 10:54:07 · answer #10 · answered by Marc 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
a) learn to spell
b) your boyfriend was a scuzz, forget him
c) family is always family. unless she makes a habit of messing around with your boyfriends, forgive her
d) you're young, you'll forget him soon and in a year or so you'll wonder why you were ever so mad at her. so don't ruin your relationship with her over it.
e) nobody is exactly how we pictured them at first. especially if we knew them when we were kids. everyone has human flaws that we don't expect. even you.
2006-12-26 10:54:13 · answer #11 · answered by Eowyn 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋