Im not sure how to pit this so i'll be blunt. How do I stop worrying??? Believe me I worry about myself, the future and everyone around me. However im not the sort to make it obvious to all around me. I am far from an attention seeker. Im more of a closet worrier. I worry about things I cant control e.g. my dad has been sick for 15 years now with a progressive illness. I constantly worry about him, how my mum is coping, and thats just one thing. I worry that I will dissappoint them in decisions I make throughout my life and my final years left in uni. I know I have to stop but its easier said than done. I would love a genuine answer something I can learn from. Sometimes I think I had to grow up too young both my parents are ill, and i've always cared for them untill my dad had to go into hospital long term but I have a life, mates + Uni. How come Im a constant nervous wreck? I need to unplug, switch off ahhhhh!!!
2006-12-26 10:49:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Please read this entirely....
A sage (my dad) told me when I was about to leave my home at 15.....
He said there are basically two kinds of things in life:
1- those you can control , and
2- those you cannot control.....
What you cannot control , let is pass...there is nothing you can do by worrying except be further depressed and hence aggravate
the situation; however,
What you can control, do your best.....
Meantime take time out...far away , be by yourself in a safe and comfortable place , in a park, where you like to be....Meditate....stay calm and try to calm your mind.....tell yourself you can do more by being healthy and by not worrying....There are always solutions to any problems....
Speak to very good and knowledgeable friends and peers...Find a mentor...listen to your mentor.....
Trust me you will be surprised how your mind is equipped to handle situations like this.....
Trust me on this....Good Luck...Keep us posted...
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2006-12-26 11:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by deevoonay 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to a pyschotherapist, preferably one that doesn't immediately want to prescribe drugs to you (holistic marriage and family therapist or something of the sort).
The last thing you want is for this worry to start taking over your life or have it turn into a more serious form of anxiety. You don't have to be 'crazy' to go see a therapist, they are there to listen to you and help you. Sometimes just talking to someone helps sort out the things you can and can't control to give you some relief.
Sounds like you have been thrust into a position of primary caregiver for your parents which isn't necessarily fair. You need to have the freedom to build/create your own life.
Other things to do would be to take time for yourself to relax. Write some things down that you feel relax you, and make a habit of doing those things at least once a day. Get a massage, take a walk, go to the gym, take up yoga, whatever makes you most happy and most relaxed.
2006-12-26 11:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by hilaire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do and you are quiet right in your assumption that its because you have had a lot to deal with having said that there are a few things you can do for yourself. See the school counselor and find/get some relaxation exercises. Meditation is also an excellent way to relax and de-stress. Make sure you have "me" time be it a relaxing bath, reading a book or watching a movie. Turn your phone/s off so you cant be disturbed, lay comfortably and then begin by tensing and relaxing your muscles, if a worry intrudes acknowledge it and say to yourself this is my time I will think about that later and go back to tensing and releasing your muscles, work from your toes up about 5 reps for each muscle. Good Luck!
2006-12-26 10:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by Just Thinking 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. IT is great you are compassionate about your parents but if your dad has been sick for a long time he probably has certain ways he's learned to cope with things and accept it. Do you talk to the about your feelings?
One thing that is very helpful to turn off the channel and unplug is to do some breathing where you inhale for 10 seconds, hold it for 10 seconds and exhale for 10 seconds. This realy can change your awareness if you do it for 10 minutes or so. It helps the mind calm down. Also I am sure you are not a disappointment to your parents as you seem to be a very caring person.
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2006-12-26 10:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if this is the best answer but what works for me is to have a plan. I tell myself that it is OK to worry and then I start making real plans to deal with the situation "if" the thing I'm worried about comes true. This might be replacing one problem with another but it may relieve some anxiety.
2006-12-26 11:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by ARM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that most of the things we worry about never happen. Even if we do worry, It won't change a thing...remember that. You need to have a place you can go that you will forget you problems for at least a little while, with a friend, boyfriend someone that always makes you happy.
2006-12-26 11:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have some very good answers already, What I do when there is this tendency to worry about things, and mostly it is something I cannot do anything about. I have been thought to turn to my Almighty Father, and I talk to him about all these things that I am concerned about, and ask for his guidance in all the decisions I need to make. this is called prayer, and then place my trust in God. that he will answer and guide me. Amen
2006-12-26 11:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by pooterilgatto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worrying is not going to solve any of these problems, so please get do something before it ruins your health. Get involved in as many activities as you can and keep busy. Pray....Ask God to help you with this problem and ask other people to pray for you also. I will be praying for you and I know that prayers work. I used to worry about everything, but God showed me that I can not change things. Good luck...
2006-12-26 11:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by Dyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not something we can easily stop im a worrier but just like you i dont make it obvious and you probably grew up to fast so you kinda still have that kid in you that worrys about stuff like that trust me i worry about that stuff to except for the parents being in the hospital my mom died when i was really young so i kinda had to grow up fast so i still have that little voice inside that keeps me alert and stuff.
2006-12-26 10:55:45 · answer #9 · answered by superklutsonaskateboard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should seriously tell your dad, i don't know what illness he has, but, you should tell him that your worrying about him. my grandma had cancer and then died like 1 year ago. but she told me to tell her if i was worrying about her. so i could talk to her about it. she liked to know if i was worrying. if your having really bad anxiety you should go to the doctor and get something for it, because its not really easy to stop worrying cold turkey. i worry all the time, that was until i have an anxiety pill that i take whenever i need it. until the anxiety is so bad that you can't do anything at all then you need something for it. when i have bad panic attacks (which are the same as anxiety except for the panic stage) i can't do anything..i freak out, i hyperventilate and i get lightheaded and i get physically sick. then you need something for it. but worrying for things is not all bad. it shows that you care alot for things and people, you just need to learn to control it.
2006-12-26 11:10:10 · answer #10 · answered by tuxedokitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋