how do you know when you are in an abusive relationship?

Question

what are the signs of an abusive relationship?
how do you get out when they won't go away? It's easier to talk to him then get rid of him because he follows me and shows up where ever I am. He stalks my me and my friends.

Answer 1

Emotionally if he's trying to manipulate you into thinking the situation is okay when it's not, then it's abuse. If you don't feel right and he's forcing you to do it/something, then it's abusive.
Abusive and unhealthy are different. It sounds like he's obsessive about you, that's unhealthy. If he's trying to change your behaviour/you, then it's abusive.

If he does not go away when you tell him to go away, and he is being abusive toward you when you try to make him leave, then it sounds like a matter for his parents/the police. People who intimidate/are threatening can have Restraining Orders placed against them. It's a last resort obviously but it's an option.

Answer 2

obviously when you are abused! if you don't like what a guy is doing to you, or if he is hurting you in any way, its not a good relationship! if this guy stalks you do something about it! tell someone if your worried he might hurt you or if he is just really bothering you.

Answer 3

abusive is usually physical behavior, but it is creepy when someone stalks you and your friends. spend more time with him if you can, and maybe break up. call the police and get a restraining order if he keeps doing it.

Answer 4

he is lacking self esteem just like yourself. he is unsure of himself.

signs of abuse:
bruises, cuts, broken bones etc
always wanting to know everything about what you've done, with whom, what you've said, and acts controlling.
is controlling with your $, time, and family and controls how often you talk to them and when etc.
mocks you and your religious beliefs
tells you that you can't make it without them or that your life will get messed up if you try to leave
makes threats like they are gonna tell everyone this or that about you if you try to leave.
accuses you of doing things that you know you didn't do, like cheating, for example.

Answer 5

u know when u have a black eyes bruses etc..that is only physical abuse. there is a lot of different kind of abuses be specific...if you are being abuse ask for pro help....dont let it become worse

Answer 6

ummmm..........hitting,yelling, and put downs, are a few, file a report with locale police on the stalking,get restraining order, SOON. while you still unharmed.

Answer 7

you are in an abusive relationship when

he beats you
he calls you names all the time
when he constantly puts you down and makes you say

thats it

Answer 8

He peharps jealous.

Answer 9

whenever u think u r. it is ur decision!