I am in town visiting my parents, who I don't see often. My mom wanted to go to a movie, but I refused because she can never follow the story and is constantly asking what is going on. Am I an asshole for not going with her?
2006-12-26 10:14:21 · 17 answers · asked by white.devil 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Come on, she barely sees you, she wants to spend time with you and reason she talks at the movies is because that is her only time to talk to you..if you miss some of the movie, so what? go again by your self, or rent the DVD, that is not so important as spending time with her...
I did not see my mom in 10 years, she lives over sea and I am here with no money, I will give everything to be able to spent time with her.
Just apologize and go see a movie with her!
2006-12-26 10:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jax4all 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how you turned her down. Did you just flat out say No I don't want to go without giving her a reason? Did you lie to her? Or did you be honest and tell her the true reason you didn't want to go?
My mom can be the same way so I can understand how you feel. She may just want to spend time with you. You might want to say something like, "I'm not in the mood for a movie. How about if we go somewhere and have dessert together?" This way you can talk to her and spend time with her. She doesn't get to see you much and most likely wants to spend time with you.
If you do go out with her you might want to also tell her why you turned her down. Be honest. Tell her you don't watn to hurt her feelings but when you go to a movie you like to watch it and if she has a question about something she can ask you afterwards. When you do go to a movie with her pick one that isn't hard to follow. A family friendly move if ou are both into the kind of thing.
Good luck. It seems you don't need us to tell you that you were "mean" as you said to your mom. It sounds to me that since you had to ask that you are most likely feeling bad about turning her down. Do the right thing. Go and spend a little time with her before you go back to your house.
2006-12-26 18:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by Faith 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you had a good reason not to go to the movies with her. I have a sister that does the same thing. And as we no you can't enjoy the movie with a person like that. I finally told my sister look don't ask me nothing because am not going to answer. It worked. You need to tell your mom we can go to the movies if you promise not to ask me question during the movie, save the question for after the movie and mom if you don't, don't ask me to go again.Tell her you love her,but that really ignore me.
2006-12-26 18:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no.
Your mom is probably older and she loves haveing you there to help her fallow the movie. Just love her and induldge her.
Or tell her you would rather rent a movie and spend some time at home with her.
Either way........sometimes when your parents get old.....you are the parent and they are the kids.
You don't see them too often. Be patient and kind.
2006-12-26 19:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You should have gone with your mother, for HER sake. You said you don't see her often, so you should try to have a good time, make her feel like you care about her instead of being a brat about it.
2006-12-26 19:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by piratewench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but you have got to remember that she is not going to be around forever and when she is gone you'll miss her not following along and bugging you during the movie o jut go and have fun its an hour and half have fun while you have the Chance remember life is to short to waste
2006-12-26 19:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by bnabrat_1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not mean for not going, you already know you would have spent more time explaining what was going on and answering questions compared to being able to sit there and just watch it.
2006-12-26 18:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a cheap DVD player and then you can let her ask you what's going on while you are on your cell phone talking to your friends. If that doesn't work get her a hearing aid.
2006-12-26 18:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom did so much for you in your childhood changed your napkins with the sh.t and you are afraid of telling her the story of a film my dear friend now it is your turn to do some sacrifice in your life for close ones if not for other's
2006-12-26 18:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by bittoo khanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2006-12-26 18:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by oriolesfan2323 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋