It has always been my plan to have one or two natural children, and adopt a baby girl from China (The conditions for female orphans in China are sickening, while not an ideal situation here, at least domestic orphans have their welfare secured.
Me and my fiancee are leaning towards only having one natural child, as we want to give them every opportunity that we did not have in life.
I had also originally planned to have my natural child first, and then adopt our second child, but now that we have set down and really thought this through, we think it might be more healthy to adopt first. We think this would help our baby girl, especially coming from a different culture, feel just as much part of the family as our natural child, which might be hard if we added on to our family.
We also think that this would help our natural baby develop a normal sibling relationship with our adopted baby, as this would be all he/she would know.
Which do you think would be more healthy? Thanks!
2006-12-26
09:57:43
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You don't think when a child is adopted into a family has an effect on how they view themselves in the family, and the sibling relationships within the family? That seems like common sense to me.
2006-12-26
10:04:38 ·
update #1
Thanks Gnome, but you must realize, in the United States the physical welfare of children are guaranteed to they are 18. In China they do not have that luxury. Think of the population of China, and how their rules of 1 child per family affect the adoption market in that country. Girls are looked down as second class citizens, but it is not legal to just give a child up if you have an extra girl. So many people just leave their babies somewhere they will be turned it. While I would think it very rewarding to enrich the life of a child, it will be even more so to potentially save the life of a child.
2006-12-26
10:31:00 ·
update #2