whats the best thing about having kids in your 20's?

Question

me and Laura have decided that we would like to ahve both our kids by the time she's 25, this will make me 26 and I am wondering whats the best and worst thing about having them (kids) in your mid 20's and please be honest, your your own or friends experiences if you like..

cheers
Mitch

Answer 1

I am thirty, and I have four children ages five, six, nine, and twelve. The worst thing is I am young and don't get to do all the things I'd like, chances I could take if I didn't have a family, I can't just run out and buy myself some new clothes. I could have used a bit more wisdom in the beginning, but we managed. The best thing is they'll all be gone in by the time I am 43, which is only thirteen years away. Granted I know they won't really be gone, but I can go on a trip without having to find a babysitter, and I can reqire that they work or go to college if they want a free roof over their heads...so that they realize they have to grow up and become responsible for themselves. Time flies once you have kids... you get so busy trying to do everything right...go to work, come home cook and eat dinner, give out baths, tuck em in and start all over tomorrow. I don't suggest everyone to have as many as I do, but I do suggest at least one while you are young. I had two before I was married... then married into one when I was pregnant. I didn't plan it well. So I do suggest having a plan. Do you want two in diapers at the same time. Diapers can get expensive. When you are young... you have more fun I think... you kinda grow up together. You can also relate a little bit better also...you are still a bit flexable... and not so set in your ways. My two youngest I don't feel I have near the relationship I had with my two older ones. Don't let people tell you... you are not stable enough... there is never a good time to have kids... they are expensive... but if you love your kids you will find a way.

Answer 2

I'm 25 years old and I have a 9 year old little girl and a 7 month old little girl and I can tell you I love being a mom at 25. It's so much fun because I'm still young and as they both grow I will still be able to run around and play hide and seek with them with out saying hold on mommy needs to take a break. It's a wonderful thing when you are still young and can turn around and have your kids in your 20's. I would never change anything in the world for having kids when I am still young. It's great!

The worst thing is, No more bars and partys and late nights because your kids will have bed times. Thats the only down fall on that.

Answer 3

Best and worst...... You are young so you have the energy to keep up with little ones...... You will get to see them grow up and have families of there own, and so many more good things,
the only bad is this, you are young and some will say this is the time to travel and do what you want to do, and buy all the fun stuff you wont be able to get once you have kids......

But I to am 26 and trying to have a baby with my husband, and no matter how many bad things people come up with as to why we should wait the end result out ways the bad things for me

Good luck to both of you

Answer 4

Well its my own in this case, Im 27 and fullterm at 40wks. I think the best thing about having kids in your 20's is that there isnt too much of an age generation gap. You can still relate to your children as your still young yourself and you can do alot more physical activity with them.

The disadvantages i suppose are up to the individual - but some would say they just dont get to enjoy their younger years or build up more career choices.

For me anyway i just look forward to dropping my little bundle any time now and playing with him. Im looking forward to spending my retirement years "retiring" instead of looking after younger offspring.

But hey, everyone is different and if you feel ready for it then congrats and good for you. If not, then dont feel pressured by yourself, your partner or family to have kids. Nothing is worse than having kids when you are not ready for them.

Good luck!

Answer 5

omg where to start. One of the many that comes to mind is when my daughter was almost 2 years old. We was all on the lake with tons of people and I was holding her. Everybody was just talking and having a good time and out of no where my daughter yells look at my mommys ti**ies. I was so embarrassed I could have died. Everybody laughed but I still just wanted to die. Believe me we had a talk about that one. I still don't know where she heard that because we don't say that. Never the less still embarrassing

Answer 6

The best thing is you're young enough to enjoy and interact with them. Children are what we have to look back on in old age, plus grandchildren. The hardest part is you become the bottom of the food chain. It becomes all about the children, work, doctors mortgages, diapers, baby sitters, formula, money becomes like fluid. I hope that you are a two income family, because that's the only way that a couple will make it. But, to me, it was all worth it. Of course when they become teens, they think that you're Satan, out to ruin their lives. Oh yeah, they all do it, they eventually come down to earth, after a couple of brushes with either death or the law. By then, you're certifiably nuts, but hey, it was all in the name of love. Don't forget, parenthood does not end at ages 18 or 21, its a lifetime commitment.

Answer 7

i can't think of many positive things about having kids young. i got married at 20 and thought i would have a baby at 22 then i thought 23 then 24. now i'm 25 and am thinking more like 27. think about this... you are alone right now to be able to enjoy eachother. once you have kids... they are there and you can't get rid of them. even when they are 18, you'll be 44... but don't think they will go away. i lived with my parents til i got married at 20 and my sister is almost 20 and says she is never moving out of my parents house.

the good thing about waiting is that you are older and wiser with each passing year. also you will have gotten to live and do what you wanted to do before you are chained to kids forever.
also, i recently read a survey in a magazine that said couples without children rate themselves happier than couples with kids. also couples with kids fight 8 times more than childless kids.

Answer 8

The best thing is that you've got the energy to hang with them. That, and the fact that you'll be young enough to enjoy your empty nest when you have one...

The worst thing, well...the worst thing honestly is that most of us, no matter how hard we try aren't financially stable in our twenties. Theoretically, you should be building your life in your 20's, maintaining it in your 30's and enjoying freedom in your 40's. But, with the economy the way it is, and no one being financially stable anymore, I'd say that if you wait for everything to be perfect, you'll never have kids.

So...my opinion is that you'll have them and everything else won't matter because once you first lay eyes on your baby, nothing else matters. You'll always find a way to do what's right for them, and you'll always make things work because that's just what parents do.

Answer 9

I think the best thing about having children so young is that when they get older it won't be such a stretch to relate to them. The worst thing is going to be that at 25 and 26 you are probably still going to want to go out to movies etc but having a child is going to make that very difficult without a lot of babysitting.

Answer 10

I have one boy and another on the way and I am 27. We had our first when I was 25.

My logic is this... I dont want to be an old dad. I want to have my health and fitness when my boys are in their teens - both for their benefit and for mine.

Down side is that children become your life - so you are forgoing any selfish thoughts or dreams you might be having... that trip to amsterdam... weekend jaunt in jamaica... suddenly change and becomes swimming classes from 8 till 10 am every saturday... reading stories at night and beign available for play whenever the little one wants it!

My opinion -- my little boy has become my best mate and my reason for living. weekend in jamaica.. haha - I will take a swimming class and a story any day of the week!!