I just started dating this new guy and we had a really strong connection the first time we met. And he asked me to be his g/f and I said yes so now we are together and the day after he sayz that he loves me. I said it bac but, don't knoe if i really did mean it. So do u think he said it just to say it or do you think he really meant it? and Im also afraid of falling in love again since the last relationship i let myself fall for a guy and got hurt really bad... SO PLEASE people help me out....
2006-12-26 09:45:12 · 16 answers · asked by dominirecan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just keep seeing him --- see what happens --- if the connection grows so will the love --- if it does not it will not make things better or worse
2006-12-26 09:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of you should never say what you don't mean; if you parents offered you money and you wanted it, would you say no? I think not. Secondly that strong connection you had at the beginning was more than likely lust, not love. After a day he loves you? Think of your very best friend; how long did it take to find out that person is someone you can depend on? it can't be 2 days; come on use your noggin a bit here. You even said yourself you got hurt really bad; for some reason many ladies just completely IGNORE how things felt the last time they "felt" special about someone. If you feel that way you should act doubly cautious, because you don't want to "share" yourself with some kat that may or may not even be worth your time or trouble. Remember women sell sex for love and men sell love for sex. Do yourself a favor and take your foot off the accelerator. If he's worth a flip he'll display some patience.
2006-12-26 09:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by donbenecio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done a mis-justice to you and this new guy. You should never say I Love You... unless you really mean it. He seems to be a little insecure about himself if after one date he loves you. He is looking for a fast romance. You on the other hand are just coming out of the loving relationship that did not end well. YOU tell us you don't want to get involved. The problem is not him but the problem is you. You are not controlling your emotions, you are in love with being in love, even though you were hurt and you think another love can lessen the pain. It can for a little while but if this doesn't work the way you like it, then you will hate to love. So back off, tell him you guys are moving to fast. Take it easy, if he is a great guy you will get to know him and then you will love him more than you do now.
This is the way love goes, you meet him, get to know him, work on getting use to his faults and he getting used to your faults. When you first meet someone it is mostly chemical attraction. After a few weeks then the personal and more meaningful attraction finds it way into your mind and heart.
Good Luck
2006-12-26 09:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is new, he's probably infatuated with you. Let the words "ride" for now. You've been through one hurt. Let this be a fresh start, but watch it. Enjoy the relationship and watch for signs--if you see anything that reminds you of the hurt you've just been through, back off a little. Remember, it's best to be friends and get to know one another before you "fall" or, in this case, he "falls" too hard. Good luck!
2006-12-26 09:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think of falling for a guy as a bad thing. I'm sorry that you got hurt from your last relationship and I understand what you mean. I fell deeply in love with this guy and he broke my heart real bad. However, after 7 months, we have managed to become really good friends and I've understand him better. I've managed to see why and he has grown to be grateful of me after his failed relationships afterward.
Because of my failed relationship, I've learn what I want in a guy and how to deal with relationships better. I think I've truly become a much stronger and better person out of it.
As for this new relationship of yours, my best advice for you is to take it real slow. Also, don't surround your whole life around him either. That way, if you do get heart broken, you'll have some comfort zone that's away from him.
2006-12-26 09:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lotii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 19:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by chappie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could have really meant it, I know this would be possible for me. I can fall in love just seeing a girl once and maybe exchanging just a few words if any. Maybe once he gets to know you better he will not feel the same way...but maybe you will then grow to love him for real that would be ironic.
2006-12-26 09:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think hes movin to fast and that yall should slow down my last bf told me that after less than a month and then dumped me a week later for his cousins fiance' and the sad thing is I believed him and it was an awful feeling I wish you the best and that it works out
2006-12-26 10:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by USMC LCpl Wife & Mommy 2 Be! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No two guys are the same so let history be history. Forget your unhappy past relationship and move on. As to weather your boyfriend is sincere in what he said, you will need to ask him. I'm sure he is otherwise he won't have said it.
2006-12-26 09:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you were dating a guy whom you don't like, not to talk of love. You can always ask him if he really meant it. Wait for when you have a tender moment, just the two of you and ask. Then listen to his response, read his response (body language), then act on his response.
Good luck!!
2006-12-26 09:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by Stavi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like the guy then it was okay...don't go back and take what you said back but next time just say 'i know' if you don't want to get hurt again then you should just take it slow.
2006-12-26 09:51:35 · answer #11 · answered by thatonegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋