I have been friends with this guy for 10 years, and we have been sleeping together fo 4 of those years. We click every where, be it conversation o sex or whatever. When we are apart i find myself wanting just to call him even if he's at work just so i an hear his voice. He acts sometimes the same with me...if he doesn't hear from me all day, he will call to check on me. Is it love or lust??
p.s.- I had these feelings even before I started sleeping with him.
2006-12-26 09:39:04 · 15 answers · asked by trisha_r_c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It could quite possibility be love.
However, try going out and do non-sexual stuff together and see how it goes. See if you enjoy spending time with him without the sex and that would tell you if it's lust or love.
2006-12-26 09:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by Lotii 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can know if you love him or not. There are many different degrees of love. If you guys have been friends for 10 years yet not had a romantic relationship, other than sex, I would be hesitant to say that it's "real love". If I were in your situation, I would ask him if he wants to be with me or not. If not, the sex would definitely stop. In between relationships, being in between friends and more, is never a good thing.
2006-12-26 17:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by Miss D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably are in love with him.
Maybe you should tell him that you want to make your relationship official. You want to be his girlfriend. Speaking from experience, your cheating yourself if you don't just put it on the table. A Friends with benefits relationship is a dead end street. You both care about each other and are more mature now. Go for the real thing. Good Luck!
2006-12-26 17:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by Contessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its lust only because y'all where together that long and not in a serious relationship only sleeping together.and other things. if it was luv he would have ask you to marry him.10 years is a long time even 4 years is and y'all don't live together or have kids together.basically hes getting his cake and eating it to. meaning there no commitment but he keeps a close bond with you so he can keep hitting it,if u know what i mean.
2006-12-26 18:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by black pharoahs of egypt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are already created a beauiful very deep bond
be proud loving and compassionate for having eachotehr in love
and admiration
your story is sweet and beautiful
2006-12-26 17:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by franslaimbock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like love to me you been knowing each other for a long time now you both have feelings for each each that's part of life, SHUT!!! He might be your soul mate you never know, COMMUNCATION is the key to any realationship. GOOD LUCK TOO YOU!!!!
2006-12-26 17:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you might love him but are you sure he feels the same way about you? and if he does then do something about it... be a couple and see how it goes or whatever
2006-12-26 17:42:14 · answer #7 · answered by trackstud610 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you if it is love or not....things will just seem to fall into place and everything will be right in your world with him.
2006-12-26 17:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by thatonegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds a lot like love to me.
2006-12-26 17:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by Bored&Broken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i want to know that too. my story is different than this. i never sleep with this guy though.
2006-12-26 17:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋