I know that my girlfriend of 2 yrs is almost done with me based on her reactions & behaviour,and just dragging on.From what i know she's kinda just having me as a standby just in case.She wants me to wait for some more time after which the the results may still not be positive according to her,but i kno shes gonna end it 90%.I think i should end it before she does.How do i end it in a reasonable way?.
2006-12-26 09:37:07 · 7 answers · asked by anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest. You have both come to the end of the relationship and you need end this now as friends. If you drag it you both won't grow and meet new people. I'm still angry that I dragged a dead relationship past it point. I unfortunately dislike him now, and you don't want angry in your heart. Believe me it toxic.
2006-12-26 09:43:19 · answer #1 · answered by jewelsthomas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During an appropriate time, say the following:
I've been meaning to talk to you about this. It seems to me like you're unhappy in this relationship. It's in the way you talk, the way you look at me, the way you don't look at me... and while I still have feelings for you, all I want is for you to be happy. There's no point in dragging this out because it's not fair for either of us. If I'm wrong about this, then let's discuss it. Otherwise, I think it's best if we walk away from this amicably.
Then listen to her and see what she has to say. You may be in for a long discussion and you may not. Good luck.
2006-12-26 09:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over dinner (as someone else has already suggested) is a good idea, but not always practical. When you two are together and it's quiet, you might try asking her if she has any more information on whether she's interested in you. If she says she needs more time, you can simply let her know that you aren't able to give her that. Since she can't answer you, you actually have your answer. It's done with. You might let her know that she needs to move on as you are going to, starting now. You won't need to be mean about it, you can present it in a matter-of-fact way.
"So, do you think your'e ready to commit to our relationship yet?"
"No, I still want youto wait a bit more..."
"Oh, well, I don't have any more time to give you. I think if you aren't able to tell me now, then you aren't ready. I'd like you to move on because I'm going to - starting now."
It's very pointed and very brief, but it says what needs to be said and we've left out any name calling, accusations, rude remarks and suggested that it's time to call it quits.
2006-12-26 09:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by stevegoryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her and tell her the relationship isn't working and that it's best just to move on with ur lifes and make it seem as if it was ur idea from start to bottom, and that u have been thinking about it for about a couple months now
2006-12-26 09:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by Katleen F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
over dinner and just be frank with the situation u cant be hurt no more than u already have
2006-12-26 09:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by mell14716 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that what she thinks is selfish and you are nobody's boy toy and you are done with her.
2006-12-26 09:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by SugarCookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No nice way. Just sit her down and trell her what you just told us.
2006-12-26 09:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋