When my sons's father and I divorced, he took it pretty hard, even though he was 6/12, I was at fault..he lived with me until he was about 11 or 12, then, because I could not control him anymore, he went to live with his dad...Over a period of time, they managed to convince him, that I was this evil person, he accused me of some pretty awful things, he was mad because I was moving out of the area, he has now matured, everybody I know, does not believe these lies, but for one person, she does...These things were said when he was VERY angry with me, and he wanted to punish me very much...This was a few years ago, and he is in the military, he has grown up very much, but he has a ways to go....I came back home for a visit, and this accuser is still at it..In fact, I am going to be a new grandma for my oldest son, she has warned my son and his girlfriend, not to let me near the baby, because you never know, they both told to go to h*ll, and it was a lie...So what do I do?...It hurts alot..
2006-12-26 09:36:15 · 10 answers · asked by PLN 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Jokes & Riddles
don't worry about it then if everyone knows its a lie
2006-12-26 09:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you would get a better response from people if you did not ask this question in the "Jokes & Riddles" section of Yahoo! Answers.
There is not much you can do unless the person has said things that are defamatory towards you and you have proof that they are lies. Then you may be able to sue this person for libel.
Of course, you have to keep in mind that this may only help to build their case that you are a troublemaker and a danger to the new grandchildren.
All you can do is lead your life by example. If you are on speaking terms with your son, then you can sit down with him, tell him that you feel really bad that he has heard all these awful stories about you, but that you would like for him to see you and make his own judgement on whether you are as bad as they say or if it was all made up.
You can explain that both you and his father went through a bitter divorce, and you both ended up hurt by it, as well as it probably was very painful and confusing for him at that age.
Avoid putting down his father when talking about the two of you...His father probably built up this hero image of himself to your son, and putting him down will only re-inforce his image that you are vindictive and manipulative.
Explain to him that you would like to be a good grandmother to the new kids, and that if they find it in the kindness of their hearts, they will let you be involved with them, even if at first it is only supervised visits with your son or his wife.
If they see that you are good with the children and are not the big problem that your husband and this other person say you are, then they should be smart enough to make you part of their lives.
Just remember: These are THEIR children...not yours. If they refuse to have you there, it is their choice and unless you believe the kids are being physically abused, you have no right to interfere with their family, no matter how much it pains you to see them grow up without being part of it.
You can always write letters, send pictures, or keep a diary that you can then share with them once they get older if they become curious and want to know who their grandma is (or was).
2006-12-26 09:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by SteveN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think you've overstated things in characterizing Obama as corrupt. The only conclusive reporting I've seen on his home purchases makes it clear that he paid an appropriate price for his home and that his time spent working on a Rezko case was limited and assigned by the firm he was working for, not something he sought out. Using the 60's radicals label is interesting, too, as I think it's safe to say that just about anyone in the civil rights movement was considered a radical in those days. If I had to pick sides, I guess I'd rather be on the side of the 60's radicals as far as that issue goes. I'll attach a link to the Chicago Sun-Times interview years ago to get to the bottom of the Rezko link. Objectively, I don't know that there's much to discuss here. It makes a good Clintonian innuendo tool, but there isn't any fact upon which to base such a negative judgment. As for who I know, yes, I know people who hate America and I might go to them on advice for things other than politics and disagree with their politics. I don't understand why an intelligent people can't listen to people of differing views, accept what they like, and discard what they don't. We need to remember that this was a church and that the sound bites we're getting aren't the focus of these sermons. My guess is that he went to this church because when the conversation turned to Jesus and Obama's desire to be personally saved, he shared much of THOSE beliefs with Wright. I don't think there's any evidence to indicate that he believes Wright's anti-American or anti-white hyperbole.
2016-05-23 08:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by Maria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is the relationship between you and your children? If that relationship is in no need of mending then the heck with the accuser. It sounds as though your son and his wife already know the truth about the lies. If it doesn't interfere with you being able to see your grandchild or your son and daughter in law then I would chalk the accuser up in the "screw off column" and call it a day. Or if you feel the need, which this would be my course of action, I would confront the accuser about the lies. If she mouths off, back hand her and tell her to stay out of your life and the relationship with your children and kick her butt harder if she does it again.
2006-12-26 09:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let this person ruin your happiness in becoming a new grandma.I would ignore this person like they didn't exist . If you don't show this person that anything they say or do will effect you they will tire of it and move on to their next victim. Good luck !
2006-12-26 09:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult situation. I would try to write a letter telling my true feelings and asking for the chance to prove yourself and if the woman comtinues to harass you then get a restraining order and make her stop.
2006-12-26 09:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by deep_hearted_empath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth will always set you free. Stick to your guns, kids have their on way of finding things out no matter how old. Do your best to keep your hopes up. It will all work out in time. Karma's a bit$%. If your son is as smart as you know he will figure it out. It all takes time, trust me. Life has its way of throwing us curve balls, but not matter what we have to keep swinging.
2006-12-26 09:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why did you put this in the jokes & riddles section?
If you rkids dont believe it than dont worry about it you are an adult and what other people say about you shouldnt matter as long as you and your loved ones know the truth
2006-12-26 09:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by KTINA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude! This needs to be asked on "Family and Relationships" forum not the "Jokes and Riddles" forum.
Cut and paste to the Family and Relationships Forum.
MJ
2006-12-26 09:40:59 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Jeff - It is what it is ☺ 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You post this question somewhere other than jokes & riddles???
Also, you make the question easier to read and understand...
Sorry I'm not sympathetic, but you did post this in jokes & riddles.
2006-12-26 09:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by ildjb@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋