I have been talking to my ex for the past year now online and not once have we talked about the breakup and how things ended so badly . I have certain things I want to ask him . When I say something about "US" he just doesnt respond back and when I ask if he wants to hang out he just ignores me and acts like I didnt ask him . But then he will e mail me telling me Merry Christmas , AGH , he is SO CONFUSING . Sometimes I just wish he would tell the truth about how he feels , I would rather him tell me he hates me and cant stand me then to act like nothing ever happened . Any advice .
2006-12-26 09:36:03 · 15 answers · asked by Codie B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and no im not a guy , you DA .
2006-12-26 09:43:12 · update #1
I've been there. In fact, I still am. My ex has been in a steady relationship for 1 year now, yet he still gets affected when I date. I think there will always be an attachment with someone you gave part of yourself to, even though we have been divorced for 3 years. Just because he wished you a Merry Christmas, doesn't necessarily mean he wants to get back. It just means he probably doesn't bear you ill-will. I would advise you to just move on with your life, and if your ex sends you a well-meant greeting, take it as something coming from a friend--and don't read anything more into it. It might end up hurting you if you did. Good luck.
2006-12-26 09:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by bellegurl17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 23:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by Randall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop asking evidently he is not at a place in his heart where he feels comfortable enough to talk about it yet! he's not confusing...your the one thats confused b/c your not getting the answers that you want and yes that could be very frustrating b/c i've been there. but i've also learnt to not put myself in certain situations so that way i wont become dissapointed with myself....give him time b/c long as you keep asking him these things...you will never get what your looking for...when you stop looking for answers thats when it will come to you...so my advice to you is to stop asking...act kind b/c as you know kindness kills the hell out of a person....if your going to talk to him don't bring up your past relationship or anything associated with it...b/c he has probably moved on...and you need to act as if you have to, well i hope i helped..good luck!!!
2006-12-26 09:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some closure on this, it sounds as if you haven't moved on. He sounds like he doesn't want to be with you, but wants to keep you hanging on, for what reason who knows he's the only one that can tell you.
I don't think you'll get the answers you want, but hopefully by asking him a direct question you'll realise that things have moved on and you can find someone new in your life who can make you feel happy again.
Remember if it's hurting you it's not love
2006-12-26 09:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by 247 SEB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think since he cared sooo much for you once before, It's hard for men to completely end things, they don't see why they can't be friends with you, since you had such an intimate relationship before.
I know how confusing it can be, I'm in a very similar situation as you right now.
The best is to stop talking, but i haven't even been able to do that, because I'm still in love with him.
2006-12-26 09:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by Pilsner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the Eagles song goes, "Get Over It". He sounds like he wants to be friendly but that's it. But if you insist on pursuing it further, try talking to him on the phone...or even in person. I'm sure he wants to avoid another relationship with you because he probably doesn't want to get hurt again or hurt you. Sometimes it's better to just part as friends and move on.
2006-12-26 09:45:57 · answer #6 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not talk about US then he doesn't what an US. He may be just wanting to be friends. It is rare to find a guy that wants to be friends and not "special friends"
2006-12-26 09:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question I have for you is,Have you asked him how he feels?If your waiting for him to share ,that time may never come. If your looking for answers,you have to be able to ask the questions.
2006-12-26 09:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I figure that out for you I will tell you...Im haveing the same problem as you r!
2006-12-26 09:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by love_basketballgurl09 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him about how u exactly feel...this way he'll stop "playing" around and u'll get more real with it..it's better to do becuz it sounds like this is bothering u more than it is him
2006-12-26 09:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by dreaming 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋