Allright so on Christmas day we go over to my brother in law's house for dessert. They all ready had dinner with the sister in law's family (my husdand's brother's wife's family). I notice on the dinning room table a very familiar looking piece of tupperware being used -its MINE! Hmm? I thought- what do I do? I've needed this back for quite a while now. We are really not that close, so I never really wanted to say anything unless she brought it up. Basically I was just waiting for her to make the move and give it back with out asking for it. So at the end of the evening everyone was leaving and I noticed one of her sisters packing up the dishes of food she brought over and there was my tupperware. She took it home with her! So I casually ask sisterinlaw if she has a chance, could she please give me the 2 tupperwares of mine that she has. Sure she says no problem! I never got them back last night. What do I do? I cant keep insisting- that would be rude, I guess. Her sister has my stuff!
2006-12-26 09:33:12 · 21 answers · asked by gumby and pokey 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yeah know, I know exactly how you feel. I absolutely hate when this happens and it seems I end up with no Tupperware at all because of this and lets face is good Tupperware is NOT cheap.
What I would say is mention it one more time to her, but tell her its part of a set (if its the type you can pull this off with) and tell her you really do not have the money to replace the whole set and that's the only way to get those pieces. If you still do not get it back which you probably wont, let it go. No sense starting a war in the family over plastic containers.
But if you give them left overs next time, tell them to hold on while you empty out a butter container because you would rather take a loss of butter then your good Tupperware.. lol.
BTW, I use those glad ones now. They are cheap and if you don't get it back (which I don't expect to get those ones back) then its not a loss.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-26 10:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by Issym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are not getting your Tupperware back. This stuff is expensive. Do you think this person is keeping the stuff purposefully? If so, then, I would stop asking. You aren't getting it back. I think you can probably ask for it back one more time. If you don't get it back, then write it off.
The next time, put your name on it- maybe one of those address labels. Or, use the cheap inexpensive stuff available at the grocery store. It it doesn't come back, no big deal.
I am sorry this person is so careless and inconsiderate about other people's stuff.
2006-12-26 10:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by Malika 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tupperware is disposable. Family and friends exchange it constantly while socializing.
You could have said "let me take some of those left overs off your hands", grabbed your tupperware and filled it w/o anyone thinking any thing of it.
Your sister in law likely has no idea who originally owned her tuperware, nor the whereabouts of the pieces she has purchased.
Don't sweat the small stuff, you will be soooo much happier!
2006-12-26 12:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing rude about asking for your own stuff back. By all means remind her that you need your tupperware back. It's not just the tupperware it's the principle. When somebody lends you something of their's unless they say otherwise they expect it back.
2006-12-26 11:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tupperware, is not a good enough reason to have a family feud. I am sorry for your loss. In the future buy the inexpensive glad ware that is disposable and doesn't really matter if you get it back or not. Saves lots of hard feelings.
2006-12-26 10:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What cheek some people have. Do they not know about principles! If you loan an item from someone you should return it. It doesn't matter if it is silverware or tupperware. It's yours. Go to the door and ask for it back as you need it and show that you have as much cheek as they do.
2006-12-26 09:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by Shelley C 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As if she even remembered who it belonged to! I'm sure she has long forgotten which pieces of Tupperware were hers and which were someone elses'! After being in someone's cabinet so long, will they really remember? Just let her know you saw here sister take the one you're talking about and you realize she probably forgot all about it.
Seriously! Like people have time to worry about Tupperware for that long!
2006-12-26 09:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you might have to make a decision....what's more important...your relationship with your in-laws or your tupperware??....
you probably are not going to get it back without making a big ordeal which could strain your relationship with her....
i would probably bring it up one more time and regardless of what happens i'd drop it after that and chalk it up to a learning experience.....and from then on i'd take food in disposable containers
2006-12-26 09:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the sister and tell her that you will pick up your Tupperware this week-end......The sister-in-law will call you about it, you just tell her that you have waited long enough, and you seen her sister take it home and you're going to pick it up.PERIOD.....Family can shine you on like that.May I suggest that you put your name on your things from now on.....Then you can just pick up your things anytime....
2006-12-26 10:37:27 · answer #9 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel rude, ask for it back. I cant STAND it when you send people off with your tupperware and they always assume they can just keep it.I'd also point out her lie and tell her u dont appreciate being lied to.
2006-12-26 09:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by miss_kiki4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋