i received from my husband's sisters and mom a pair of cowboy-like boots, a babyblue turtleneck sweater.... nothing wrong with that - right? but it is so not my style... the sweater's fabric is itchy... i'm never cold and i hate sweaters.i'm not into the cowgirl style.
I need help.
2006-12-26 09:31:14 · 13 answers · asked by anita_corona 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Were the gift receipts included with the gifts? If so, then the gift givers understand that you may want to return the gifts.
If not, I would return them anyway. It's a fine line, I think in keeping the gifts and never using them and returning them and possibly offending those who gave them to you.
I would rather have something I would use and like.
Send a nice thank you note, don't let them know you are returning them (at least in the note). When they ask about the gifts and why you aren't wearing them, you can say something like
"It was incredibly nice of you to spend the time to pick out these gifts for me. However, They weren't right for me. I exchanged them for xxxx."
They may be offended for a while. But, perhaps your husband could explain that you are wearing or using the "gifts" now.
This may affect what you get in coming years, but then, maybe they will ask for a list the next time.
2006-12-26 10:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by Malika 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probly feels like me but with kids you can't act that way. or should be more mindful of your words and actions. I feel that when people buy to give that they are falling for the huge buy buy buy. Most gifts that I love are the ones made or something that someone values gave me. I had a jewlery box that my grams gave me. it meant the world to me oh how I miss that thing. Well there was someone in the family who was having a hard time .. this gift was unwrapped but I gave it to the littler girl who lost her grams. told her the story about my grams listen to her stories about her grams. they were cute more so when you have an 11 year old tellign you this stuff. She is 21 or 22 now. and still has that jewerly box. she told me that she keeps all her important memories in there. And how that was her best gift .. The kid was 11 years old and this jewerly box was the best ever. now that is a gift. not something bought from a store. I don't think you should take them back. that would ruin it for your kids. They are excited. Pull your husband aside and say the kids wanted this. so this is how it is going to happen. I'm not taking them back but you can afterwords and get the money for them and go play poker. Next time state what you want on a xmas list. that way i can give you what you want instead of guessing. or buying from the heart.
2016-05-23 08:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Maria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given that the cowboy boots and turtleneck sweater are not your style and therefore, they will never be worn by you there is no point keeping them simply because they were given to you by your Mother-in-Law and Sister-in-Law. Their intent was good and that is what's important here. That is what you will remember.
Pass them along to a thrift store or give them to somebody you know will appreciate the style. If somebody else can use something that you simply never will, pay it forward ~ as they say ~ with more good intent.
2006-12-26 09:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by LiverGirl98 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They do not fit is the best way out of this. It's honestly impolite to ask for receipts because most people do not want you to know what they sent on them, You can ask her if the gifts came with gift receipts because the items do not fit you correctly. Explain that the boots pinch you in the toes. This is very common when it comes to cowboy boots that are not fitter proper. As for the sweater you can tell her it pulls across your shoulder because its to tight in the bust area. If given details like that, then it does indeed look like the items did not fit.
2006-12-26 10:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by Issym 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would try hard to return them for something you like first...tell your mil that the sweater and boots don't fit and if she has a receipt to return them...if not, your not stuck wearing them as they don't fit;) lol
Donate them to a women's shelter...good luck!
2006-12-26 09:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by M R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no polite way to return a gift. The 'givers' will be totally offended.
Do what I do: Put them in a charity bin. Someone will love them and you are GIVING. Which is what Xmas is all about
2006-12-26 09:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by Ambience 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hear people all the time saying, "If they don't like it, they can just return it." If you don't like it, take it back to the store or take it to Good Will. I doubt your in-laws are that attached to your gift.
2006-12-26 09:39:19 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can get away with taking them back. Do so shi*! I mean assuming it will go sort aunnoticed. I'm sure some fool will tel you your being RUDE and selfish. But afterall, your telling US, NOT his family, right? So hey taek them back, get something you prefer!
2006-12-27 08:12:35 · answer #8 · answered by peacfulwar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope your in-laws are not the type who expect to see you wearing their gifts and when they do see them are always asking where they are.
2006-12-26 11:48:25 · answer #9 · answered by firewomen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask them for the receipt and return them.You could just find out where they bought them and try to return them yourself.I know they will give you the receipt if you ask...
2006-12-26 10:44:31 · answer #10 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋