2006-12-26 09:26:31 · 13 answers · asked by RaylizD 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I feel happy one min and sad the next. I take it out on my husband the most. he still gets to work and he still have a life out side the home and im afraid im starting to resent him for that!!! Any suggestions? My baby is 5 weeks old!
2006-12-26 09:59:53 · update #1
I feel for you as I can remember feeling the same same way as you do right now. When I look back, I can see now, as the others have mentioned, that I had been going through some depression. My advice for you would be to just find one thing that you enjoy doing. Maybe if you take a nice bath, read a good book, whatever makes you relax, you should really make an effort to focus some energy on yourself. I think that's where I went wrong. There were days that I had a hard time just to take a shower, because I was so focused on my baby. Your little one is growing fast, trust me it does get better. This age is very trying and takes a lot of adjusting. Talk to your husband and be honest, tell him how you are feeling. Sometimes even getting out your feeling to someone you love makes you feel better. And also like the others mentioned, try and get as much sleep as you can. Good Luck! I will say a little prayer for you. I know it is hard.
2006-12-27 01:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kim B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty nurseries and cute little baby booties and all these wonderful expectations during your pregnancy.....lol leads to a urping, pooping, crying, little bundle of joy that keeps you up all night! I am not saying that to sound like children aren't a blessing, but sometimes our expectations are built up so high that we come crashing to earth after the little bundle arrives.
The first few months are a serious adjustment period, but it does get better and easier with time. If your little one is only 5 weeks old your hormones are still in havoc and you are still adjusting to life as a mommy.
If you can - get Daddy involved when he is home from work. Take a long Mommy only walk, have a cup of coffee with a friend without the little one, or even a long hot bath without interruption. When you can switch off getting up during the night with Daddy so you can get some sleep. (You might even be able to enlist a relative or friend to come over one night and play nanny.) Be sure to take care of yourself, because you cannot be a good Mommy to anyone if you are not good to yourself as well.
Trust me, in a few months you'll barely remember how rough the first few weeks were, and in a few years you'll be wondering how time flew by so fast.
2006-12-27 07:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by Susie D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a struggle for everyone. Not only is your baby adjusting to life outside the womb, but you are getting little or no sleep, trying to figure out what every cry means, etc. Some women struggle more than others, like if they have PPD. That can make it feel like the sky is falling in on you on top of everything else.
2006-12-26 17:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did for the first 3 years or so.
2006-12-26 17:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your hormones are playing havoc with your emotions hence you are feline so up and down
they will even out and you will feel more on an even keel after a few weeks or months
sometimes sleep deprivation can make you feel even worse if the baby isn't letting you get enough sleep
what i tended to do was to sleep when the baby slept to catch up on as much sleep as possible
also if you are bottle feeding is to let your husband help out with evening feeds
i tended to do the 2am feed but my hubby would get up to do the 6am feed and treat it like an early start at work whilst i slept through till 9am or so hence getting a longer stint at unbroken sleep
another thing you could do is to contact your medical services just to be sure that you are not short of iron or anything like that and also make contact with other people in your area who also have small children to look after as they can be an invaluable source of information about what is going on and where the best bargains are to be had
2006-12-26 19:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've probably got the 'baby blues' you should talk to your doctor about how you are feeling, as it is not a far cry from moving from the 'blues' straight in to depression, believe me....As for the hard part, my first was hard, the second was easier, and the third was easier yet. I think it's normal , and almost everyone experiences the down times, like when the baby is crying, and you just don't know why...don't worry, you and your baby are fine....talk to your husband too! Maybe he just doesn't know how to help you feel better!
2006-12-26 18:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by yupyup 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a rough time, since I was also going through a divorce at the time. Also, after having my daughter I was diagnosed with a panic disorder and depression. Now that she's older, I've realized it's a learning experience and things are going so much smoother.
2006-12-26 17:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by RNFQueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are especially hard to deal with sometimes when youve pulled alot of all nighters it is mostly due to lack of sleep try to sleep when the baby sleeps as much as you can till you can get it on a night time schedule. im not a night person so it was really a struggle for me as well good luck
2006-12-27 01:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I did. I thought it was going to be this wonderful thing and it wasn't. Come to find out it was depression. Seems that our hormone levels try to straighten out and it gets all out of wack. It was so hard. But I was happy too...if that makes sense?
2006-12-26 17:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by plharg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a really hard time with my first and now that Im having my second all the insecurities are coming back.
2006-12-26 17:29:38 · answer #10 · answered by mmsantiago3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋