Why do women think they are romantic? Isn't that like thinking receiving a gift makes you charitable?

Question

Face it getting flowers does not make you romantic giving them does.

I was at a party and women were talking about how romantic they were because getting flowers and such meant so much to them. I did not say anything because I decided I would rather have sex with my g/f than fight with her.
Here I can ask this and with no hassles.

Answer 1

well, to be honest I agree with you. Most women like to think they can tell someone how to be romantic and have the ideas of it because of reading novels of the sort but in truth most of the women I have known and been with in my life were only good at receiving romance, not very good at giving it. Most of them were to giddy in their own heads over you showing them your gentle touch or words of deep feelings that they sat there with a goofy looking smile on their face like they had a mental disorder and didn't know what to do.
I know this is not true for all women or probably not the majority but either way it is and has been that way for me no matter what women I was with.

Answer 2

I'm really confused and guessing that you're not having a good expirience with a woman. No worries, as a woman, i will freely admit that we are a really complex and seemingly bitchy gender. Anyway, not *all* women think that just because they're getting flowers from someone, that they're "romantic". When and if I get flowers from a guy it just means that he wanted to surprise me with something special. I would only call myself romantic if I'm actually doing something special for a guy like making him a candle lit dinner and then enjoying a nice relaxing evening that I've created at home. What I'm getting at is that not all women think this way so cut us some slack and know that we're really not all that bad.

Answer 3

I don't know where they are getting that idea. It is usually the guy's job to be romantic with the flower giving and mostly everything.

Answer 4

Women want the man in their life to be romantic to them. I don't think women walk around saying , "I'm romantic!".

Answer 5

We seek that which we instinctively realize we lack ourselves.

Women seek romantic gestures from men because they instinctively realize they themselves lack the ability to make such romantic gestures themselves. Women are conditioned by society to be largely passive as they grow up; they wait for things to happen *to* them, they wait for men to ask *them* out. Most of the romantic gestures women expect from men are in the same nature, they're actions men are expected to take that the women passively accept as the recipient.

I think it's an unfortunate offshoot of chivalry; men went around telling women not to extert themselves, not to trouble themselves with anything that the men could take care of for them; but in elevating the women onto pedestals, the men robbed them of the ability to take action; instead, women were reduced to waiting around for the men around them to take action for them.

With enough decades and centuries of this training gone by, women have become so used to the passive role, they by and large are no longer comfortable taking action for themselves. How often do they bemoan sitting by the phone waiting for a guy to call, or waiting for a guy to make the first move, to make the bold romantic gesture, without realizing that in doing so they make it harder for themselves, and for every woman that comes after them, to free themselves from that passive role, and gain the courage to act for themselves.

Thus, we come full circle; women think they are being romantic while waiting and expecting the man to make a bold romantic gesture simply because centuries ago, the notion of chivalry began to ingrain in society the notion that the role of the romantic woman *was* to wait passively and accept romantic gestures from the men around them. Both sides are going to have to change in order to break the social mores that lock us into such crazy expectations and restrictive roles. But I suppose that's getting a bit beyond the scope of the question you first asked. ^_^;

Answer 6

You are absolutely correct. Women like to whine and if you don't do all that crap from the most recent stupid movie they saw with their mom, you're going to hear about how you suck.

Only date blind chicks. They seem to appreciate the little things more.

Answer 7

Because they are women men dont get credit for anything

Answer 8

we r romantic because we're the things that dudes strive to get. and plus we give to. i mean we don't just sit and do nothin' for you we acually try to get your attention, and try to keep it too. and plus thers the unmetanable things we do for you if you no what i mean

Answer 9

What is your problem with women?

Answer 10

LOL!!!!!!! I cant even answer that, but it was kinda funny.