My boyfriend is depressed and is pushing me away declaring he is no good for me and that I deserve better. What is the best way to handle this, give him space, or keep trying to be involved? What else could I do to help him get through this?
2006-12-26 09:10:01 · 14 answers · asked by lauraly 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
just give him his space!
2006-12-26 09:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I tried to push my boyfriend away when I was depressed, but that was the time I needed him the most. Be there for him and support him,... but don't smother him. If he needs to talk, just listen. In time, he'll get better, depending on how depressed he is.
If you want any more advice or anything send me a message and i'll help you.
2006-12-26 09:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by rnbwgrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you give him some space it will allow him to work out what's really going on with him. Sure it's a hard thing to do..
Maybe you could suggest he talks to someone neutral about how he is feeling (Counsellor etc).
This may be a test for yourself in trusting that giving him space is right for both of you at this time as you can clear your own head too
From my own experience it is wise to really listen to what he is saying to you..
Hope it works out well :)
2006-12-26 09:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Screamin' Banshee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UMMMMMMM..not sure how to tell you this but it may not be a depression. How would you know this? How long have u been going together?He may want to be seperated or broken up. definitely give him space if it's not too painful for you.If he is depressed he needs a psychiatrist if he needs to break off then you guys may need to go to a counselor if it means that much to you.
2006-12-26 09:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by A Mitzvah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when one is depressed they loose the will do do stuff ( me being one of them ) like i'm a harry potter fan so i would go on sites and listen to pod casts, and two months ago ( a round the time i tried to kill myself ) i just stopped looking at the sites and listening to the pod casts. its not that did not like harry potter any more, its just i lost the will. so that's sortuv what he is doing, he as just lost the will to try any more. don't let him, make him feel needed, make him feel loved.
say you NEED him to help you with something, if he feels you need him, then maybe he will not push you away.
2006-12-26 09:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by fallen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he asks for space, he is really saying he wants attention. Does he have any reason to be depressed? Holidays? I say give him space, but remind him that you will always be there for him
2006-12-26 09:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by anny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him space for a few days. Then try to comfort him and find out what is wrong.
2006-12-26 09:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by Small Girl = Big Problems 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to confort him,that you really love him and he is the best for you.Explain to him,that if he wasnt good for you, you woldnt be with him. try to make him feel better and show his love for him infront of other people.if this will not help, im afraid the best thing is to break up, because he needs to mature. but dont give up immediately,keep trying.
2006-12-26 09:15:33 · answer #8 · answered by Eli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this depends on howinvolved you are, and howold you are. However, if you just keep telling him that you don't WANT anyone but him, it should actually help
2006-12-26 09:13:06 · answer #9 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st...just love him
2nd...see if he might go to a Christian counselor with you to work on your relationship and through that maybe he can recognize that he is depressed and seek counseling for it.
3rd...realize it will have to be his decision whether or not he wants to get help
God Bless you!
2006-12-26 09:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by Buff 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ask him to see a doctor regarding his depression.
2006-12-26 09:18:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋