Alright, my boyfriend and I broke up back around Thanksgiving then two days later we said we were on a break for a couple weeks. Those couple of weeks were awesome. We were having a great time. We went out all the time, it was just wonderful.
Things have been good still. For Christmas he bought me a necklace and it was the first piece of jewelry I've ever recieved from a guy.
Anyway, he for some reason decided to tell me about when he went to the bar the other night with some buddies and how the female bartender was flirting with him all night. He then commented on how he should give her his number and invite her over sometime. Then, this girl who considers herself his stalker shows up only seconds after she gets off the phone with him. Apparently they've been hanging out the past week.
Maybe I'm being paranoid or maybe I'm jealous, I don't know. If he weren't still interested in me he wouldn't have bought me the necklace... But why does he keep talking about other girls?
2006-12-26 09:07:29 · 18 answers · asked by rockerweenie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know, it's kind of hard to choose a best answer for this. Every one of the answers makes some sense to me. I just don't know which is right in this situation.
Everyone is making a point, but half are making a point different from the other half and then there's this small percent that are basically saying it's nothing and I should ignore it.
I suppse the only thing in common throughout the majority of responses is to talk to him. So what do I say and how to I bring it up without seeming insecure/jealous?
2006-12-27 01:44:48 · update #1
i think you really need to ask him what the "break" means to him because sometimes it can mean different things for each person. he might think he's free to see other people at the same time as he is with u. but i think its wrong that hes been hanging out with the stalker girl..
2006-12-26 09:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by hey there :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's disrespectful ...and just b/c he bought you a necklace doesnt mean nothing but other than the fact he bought you a necklace...men have bought their women engagement rings and still go out and cheat on them...you as a woman need to put this guy in his place and i mean real fast...you can't complain if your willing to put up with his bullshyt being a doormant will get you nowhere, he has very lil respect for you... your just someone he doesnt take serious...b/c if he took you serious he would not play these games with you...a man is not going to risk losing someone that they truly love...maybe he's tired of the relationship and is doing these things on purpose just to make you mad so you could tell him that it's over..hate to say this but he wants out sweeti...and thats why he's disrespectin you with other girls....he's too coward to tell you so he rather show you by his actions....wake up! b/c you know it's not right or else you wouldnt be asking this question.
2006-12-26 09:32:29 · answer #2 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he gave you the necklace to keep you on the hook...As far as the bartender thing. Remember its there job to be friendly. They come on to everybody who has there wallet out. I'd be real careful about how involved you get with the joker. Or next week we'll be answering questions about how he bought you jewelry for CHRISTmas and now is a jerk...
2006-12-26 09:12:54 · answer #3 · answered by Psycomagnet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep pictures of him around your room, and take a couple everywhere you go. Talk to him frequently on the phone (that helps a lot) Spend time thinking up something fun and romantic you two can do together when he returns. Focus on that. Try to think up new little details as the days go by. Mark his return date on your calendar, or create some sort of visual countdown, like a paper chain, where you tear a link off everyday that goes by. Read romance books, reading makes the time go by quickly and it will also make you feel warm and fuzzy about him when you are reading them. Plan out day dates with your friends or relatives and things to do to fill the time, so the days will go by quicker.
2016-05-23 08:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still has feelings for you, but he wants to go out and make sure he can't do better. Obviously, he is off to a flying start. You should probably have relations with his best friend. Next time he calls, take his call, but tell him you're running short on time.....you have a date....you're really excited.....make some crap up...he'll be right back with you.
2006-12-26 09:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to make you jealous to see how interested you still are in him. It's a sad little player's move done by a man who has low self esteem.
I'd dump him and move on, unless you've already slept with him, then you might as well marry him.
2006-12-26 09:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like he gave you the gift to keep you around as a booty call, ask the other girl if he got her anything then you'll find out where you really stand.
2006-12-26 09:12:53 · answer #7 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could be trying to impress you or make you jealous but if he really cared about you that much he wouldn't do those things maybe its time to move on he could be stringing you along with jewelery and sweet talk
2006-12-26 14:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by valley1800 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it walks like a duck..... How old are we talking here? I am guessing young. In any case, jealousy is cancer to any relationship. You cannot force someone to be faithful to you, that has to come from inside them, the desire to be faitful.
2006-12-26 09:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by deep_hearted_empath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok sweetie!!!! just because he gave u jewelery does not mean he still wants u... u already passed that stage from ex girlfriend to best friend thats why he talks about other girls to u
2006-12-26 09:10:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋