What would you do if you found out your 15 year old daughter was pregnant!?

Question

Im 15 and i got pregnant by accedent Whart should i do?

Answer 1

Sweetie~ I'm a mother of 3 going on 4. It will not be easy for your parents to swallow at first. But, you really need to tell them. Don't be scared, just sit them down and tell them. You will need medical attention soon. That's just to assure the baby will be ok. If you don't want an abortion you need to stand up and tell them. If you were my daughter I would do everything in my power to help you and be there for you. I would let you know how much I love you.

I'm sure they will be mad at first. I had my first at 17 and my parents were furious for about 2 wks and then started getting the hang of it. My mom was there for me. I just made sure I finished school and college.

I'm 26 now and I've been married for 6 years. My first one isn't my husbands. He is in the military and we have 2 going 3. He treats my oldest as she was his own.

It's not going to be easy at first.. But motherly instinct kicks in full force and I'm sure you'll do fine.

Good Luck..

Answer 2

All parents react differently to this kind of news so since we don't know what your family situation is like we can't really tell you how THEY would react, but if you were my daughter I would make sure that you stayed in school, whether that meant giving the baby up or keeping it and having an after school job to pay a baby sitter and paying for the necessities. I would help as much as I could, but the majority of the care and parenting would have to be the mother and father's responsibility. That means no going out with friends all the time, games, dances. Becoming a parent totally changes your life, no matter how old you are.

Answer 3

I would freak out, yell and scream about how stupid she was to let this happen to herself, but then i would look at her and want to do anything in my power to help her and let her know i love her. I don't think people are ever prepared for the things that can hapen to their children. But It could be so much worse. You could have gotten AIDS and had no life at all. At least this is a baby baby's are always a blessing. If it isn't a blessing for you and your family there is a family out there that would think of your child as a Miracle they would treasure forever. I think you should look deep inyourself and decide if you are ready to be a parent. Not because you think it will be fun or have someone to love you, but because that child is part of you and is your responsibility and you want to do whatever you have to do to make sure that child has a good life. If you are not willing to do what needs to be done to make sure that baby has a good life You should look into adoption. Abortion is almost never the answer. 15 and stupid isn't a good enough reason for murder. Your mom will understand or she won't but for your childs sake you need to tell her so you can get the medical attention your baby needs.
My mom would have killed me if I even said the word adoption while i was pregnant, she has a thing about her flesh and blood being raised by strangers. But if you and your mom agree that that is the best thing for you and more importantly for your child, they have open adoptions where you can still know about the baby and know it is ok, they will send you letters and pictures and stuff so you know the baby didn't go to crazy ppl and is haveing the kind of life you wished you could have given it. That is what my friend did when she was 17. She is now 26 and has a good life and 2 small boys. They know about the baby she gave away, they get letters and pictures and once a year she goes to see him. It can work if you want it to.
My cousin had a baby at 14 and Kept him. He is so cute and sweet. She is 15 now and a freshman. She works at McDonalds to pay for his diapers (even though we all told her she didn't have to we told her we would make sure he had what he needed, but she said it is her baby and it is her job to buy his diapers and make sure he has what he needs) and she gets A's and B's in school. It just depends on what you are willing to do and to give up for your child. I hope some of this helped. There is always a better option than Abortion. It was your choice to make that baby, it should be God's choice if it gets to live.

Oh and make the father be part of the decision. If he is a jerk tell his parents. either way that baby deserves the best it's ENTIRE family can do for it. ]

Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 4

i was 14 when i got pregnant the first time. i now have a 5 year old son. when i found out of course i freaked out but you need to stay as calm as possible and sit down with your parents and a medium( someone who can be on both sides, a older brother or etc.) and tell your parents and ask them for suggestions, do you want to keep the baby or not, there are a ton of options to choose from. your parents will most likely flip out on you,but try to understand that they are hurt by this and scared just like you are. i hope your parents are as supporting as mine were because if it weren't for them then i don't know if i could have gotten through it. you'll be okay just be strong.

Answer 5

Tell the truth and accept the consiquences.
You should tell someone that you trust and who can help you but you should expect that they'll be dissappointed. You made a bad decision- that's part of life, everyone does it everyday, but it's done now so try to figure out what you want to do next.
What ever your decision, make sure you make it for you not because it's what someone else thinks is best. This is going to affect the rest of your life so take a lot of time to think about it.
Good Luck!!

Answer 6

Well I'm actually going through that. My daughter 9 months pregnant now due any day. I was in shock but I got over it. Took me awhile but I know everything happens for a reason. So all I do is try to support and hope she learns from her mistakes. I don't how your parents are. Wish you all the luck in the world.

Answer 7

Talk to your parents, they are going to find out sooner or later. They will probably be upset and angry AT FIRST but I'm sure they love you and will calm down.

You have a lot of thinking to do, about what is the best way forward for you and the baby. Try finding out if there is a local counselling service locally that may help you find the right way forward.

Good luck.

Answer 8

You should tell your parents. They will prolly be upset at first, but it will ease off as time goes by, and by the time the baby is born, they will be happy. I was 16 when I was pregnant, a lot of my friends were too, some people gave me trouble but you just have to stand up tall and ignore them, now my son is 3, and no one cares that I got pregnant young. Goodluck.

Answer 9

Talk to your parents.... I would suggest talking to ONE. Realize that this is going to be a BIG shock and that emotions will come forth....but that's NOT BAD....it's just gonna be instant reaction to SHOCK. The "NO....WHAT THE F^&*%....and such...." is OK, ...YOU WILL LIVE THROUGH IT. If you are totally scared of both parents you could tell an Aunt...older sister...or councelour at school and have them their with you or coach you through this a bit. In the end you need to do this fast...so you can have "choices" and get medical checks and all for this baby. YOU need to step up and do the right thing FOR YOU AND THIS BABY. But your parents need to know extremely soon ....now. and you need to get checked by a doctor NOW.... your parents WILL HELP....just after a short "OH MY GOD!", but thats only last a minute...like getting a shot. DO the right thing ......take care..... good luck.... Just like the rest of your life will be challenges and responsilbilities this is the first real big one..... EVERYTHING WILL BE OK....

Answer 10

be open and honest with your parents. explain to them that you made a mistake had sex, and got pregnant. that said, the baby isn't the mistake. the baby didn't ask to be conceived.

make sure you know what you want to do. if you don't want the baby, seriously consider adoption instead of an abortion.

i know of some women who gave birth at 15, and they are awesome mothers, i also know others that would have probably been better off if they gave their baby up. the choice is yours to make.