i sometimes get scared when i think about my parents dying or me dying.. what can i do?

Question

How can i accept the fact that my love d ones will die some day and then i will remain alone. And also that i will pass away one day.
I'm 27 and as i grow older, i have this fear.

Answer 1

i am 27 too, but like van wilder said, you cant get out of life alive!! ya i am still afraid of dying because i dont know what it is like being dead (for me i will be in heaven, so thats still wierd to think about, living forever!!). that is what most people fear, the UNKNOWN!! what i do, is try not to think about it, i try to live life and have fun. i try not to worry anymore or stress to much either. i love the way my bf deals with stuff, he is just sooooooo laid back and carefree that he doesnt worry, he just lets God take care of him. its great, ive learned a lot from him!! so like i siad, try not to think about it, live life, have fun, love your parents, and remember what van wilder said!!!

Answer 2

This has to do with issues of abandonment as you were growing up.This is a huge loaded question. If you were from an abusive, alcoholic or negligent home this is a major reason for this. You might deny it as you sit there but you wouldn't know the difference since this is what you're familiar with.I grew up falling asleep as young as 5-7 yrs old desperately crying for my parents not to leave me or die. Even though they were in the kitchen one room over.I was so devastated.I never knew if anyone was home the next morning. My dad was an alcoholic and would leave 2 days to 2 weeks at a time.Now I can see it all very clearly.This doesn't mean this is your case but that's the only answer I have. I can relate.
It's your inner self that will make you feel like you are here and they are here whether you need them or not. You need to love and be with yourself because you'll be around you for a long time.

Answer 3

Are you a Christian? If so, just remember that if you are all saved you WILL see each other again. Sometimes death is scary and as we get older, death becomes more of a reality whereas when we were younger it seemed so far away. You could easily live another 60+ years. Are you married or have children? Surround yourself with friends that you love and that love you, so that when death does strike you have a good support system. If/when it happens just ask God to give you an understanding and a peace and comfort, it's amazing what He can do in times like that. I'm 32 and I had the same fear several years ago and still dread the day my parents die, because I love them so much, however, I know that we will all be reunited in heaven again one day. Until then, I just communicate with them and spend as much time with them as I can while on this earth.

Answer 4

I think we have all had this fear at one time or another. The new year may be the right time for you to undertake the quest of finding what you believe to be the reason or meaning of life. Religious beliefs all seem to be geared to making us comfortable with death - you know the stuff you have heard people say about "he is in a better place now" etc. Well, I tend to look at death like a birth into the next realm. Check with any woman who has had a baby and she will say it was time for the baby to move out. The baby probably wasn't feeling any more comfortable in it's cramped quarters either. With old age and disease it will start to look like a good time to check out what is next. The fear you have of being left alone should spur you to action in acquiring a group of friends and loved ones who become your family. This takes work and true caring from you and doesn't mean you are done with or rejecting your family - it is just time to build a bigger group of "family".
If it is the fear of death as an experience - read the book "How We Die" written by a MD. Good luck.

Answer 5

We all deal with death of loved ones in a different way. It's hard loosing someone. I'm only 20, but I've lost more than my share of loved ones already. It's hard, but its part of life. It may seem like you are alone, but you won't be. Friends will pull you through it even if there isn't family anymore, but when that time comes there probably will be. I wish I could tell you not to think about it and that its very morbid, but when something weighs on your heart, the thoughts will be there no matter what. I do suggest trying to think of happier things though. Its easier to deal with it when you haven't been worrying about it for years. Remember, that day is far off most likely. Live for today and enjoy your time with your loved one without the shadow of death looming over you. Our time on earth is precious. Remember that.

Answer 6

You sound like me and I am 30. I live in fear that my mother will die. Mostly because her health has been bad for over 10 years. I have been trying to come to terms with the fact that I will die alone.
It's anxiety I do believe. Maybe see a doctor. Maybe they will put us on the same drugs.
Jk. lol

Answer 7

Just go and tell them right now everything you've wanted to tell them but haven't. Dieing is inevitable. Everyone on the planet will die at some point, so don't worry about it. Just know it's a part of life and you should celebrate the fact they may be better off than those of us stuck here on Earth.

Answer 8

I used to go through that all the time- im horribly scared of death- i remember my parents went away a few years ago and i cried myself to sleep thinkin something bad would happen to them and they would end up dead. I don't know why we have this fear but i try to think of other things-- listen to some of your favourite music or spend more time with them-- instead of thinking about bad things-- take your grandparents or parents out-- keep in touch with those you love-- because when they are gone they are gone forever but not forgotten.

Answer 9

dont fear death, theres no reason. though it is a very scary thought to pictures your loved ones dying, remeber that you wont be alone, you will have friends, possibly siblings, a spouse, and family members to help you. death is a natural part of life, just like being born is. and you will all meet again in heaven. i'm not trying to sound preachy, this is just what i beleive. theres no need to fear death because heaven is life a million times better with all of your loved ones together forever

Answer 10

Toady is the only day in anybodys life, the Future is unwritten so no reason to worry. Enjoy this day, show your love this day, if any of us wake up tomorrow, do it again.
Life happens, then it ends. Enjoy the happening part and make it happier for everyone you encounter. Smile and dance and be happy as a clam.