Please advice me.Everytime my boyfriend comes over he brings his children with him.The problem is they destroy my son's room.I don't want to say anything to him but I am really getting tired of picking up the mess.Should I put a lock on my son's door .
2006-12-26 08:40:20 · 16 answers · asked by rena 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no, they might find another room to destroy. talk to him and tell him if they make a mess THEY need to clean it up, and if they cant they need to find some where else to play where they arent leaving a mess for u. the guy needs to take responsibility for his children.
2006-12-26 08:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont lock the door, just tell the kids have to put all things up the way they found them , if he doesnt inforce it then he has a problem with raising kids and he needs to change his ways THEY NEED TO RESPECT YOUR AREA == not for you to input into his home, but when their at your home you need to tell the kids== this needs to be done, something to think about is just make it a group job when their getting close to going say about 1/2 hr then walk to the room and tell all the kids it time to put the things up as you dont have the time to do this after them , (in a very nice tone of voice) It may just take one time doing it and all will work out. best of luck JFB
2006-12-26 17:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by JFB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its YOUR house, you need to set down ground rules for your b/f's kids. They cannot leave until they clean up their mess. Any unruliness will be dealt with immediately.
Talk to your b/f. Just think, those kids may end up being your STEP kids! Put your foot down NOW before you end up married to him and become their stepparent and they start running all over you.
I would say lock the door BUT they would find another room to trash as someone said above.
2006-12-26 21:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your dang house! The rule in my house is you play with it, you put it away! It doesn't matter who the kid is I'm going to enforce MY rules!!! If your boyfriends children refuse then you should talk to him. If he has a problem then you should go a head and let him go now! Do NOT lock your sons door. Let them play, make them clean up! Let them know they have to leave the room the way that they found it!!! Your boyfriend has to respect that too and enforce it while at your house.
2006-12-26 16:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by Topaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T lock the room up. Put your damn foot down. YOU are sending the wrong message by allowing them to destroy the room without cleaning it and your not doing your boyfriend any justice by not saying anything to him about it. Tell the kids from now on if they play inyour sons room, they WILL clean it when they are done.
2006-12-26 16:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should discuss this with your boyfriend and his kids. Tell them all that they are in charge of whatever they take out and need to make sure to put it back when they're done or they can't keep coming over. Tell them to leave the room at least as good or better than they found it.
2006-12-26 16:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by ღQueenღ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When ever other children come over to my house, all the kids go play. My rule is before the kids leave everybody picks up. If you do it every time before they leave they will start doing it before you tell them to. Or they just won't make the mess to begin with.
2006-12-26 17:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jodi C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They won't know your boundaries unless you don't state them along with the consequences if they don't respect them. One of those consequences is that they are not allowed in his room. Then if they destroy any other area, they can't go there either until they have to sit at the table and nothing else. That will get their attention. Then lift sactions to the house slowly, but first you need to state what the boundaries are.
Good luck.
2006-12-26 16:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Encourage your child to clean up behind himself. Maybe if you tell him long enough and loud enough, your boyfriends kids will catch on that that is what is expected and do the same.
You didn't mention how serious your relationship is, but if you may be thinking marriage, you need to deal with this now. It will only be harder after the nups.
Good Luck.
2006-12-26 16:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by BooBoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you know its getting time for them to leave sent the kids in the room to pick it up. if they don't tell him to come on and the 2 of you help the kids but make sure the kids are doing it too.
2006-12-26 16:45:09 · answer #10 · answered by hippie_chick69love 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋