We were driving back home from my aunts house Christmas night and my best friend (boy who is a friend, not boyfriend) and I were both in the back. We were pretty tired and him and I started to doze off. I was looking out the window and then all of a sudden, I felt him gradually fall asleep onto my arm. I know that people, when sleeping, don't have control of their necks but I could see that he was only pretending to get close to me.
We are best friends and we have been just friends, but there has always been a tension that i can't describe, like it's telling me that I love him because I can tell he loves me more than anything.
I'm not confused but just very, very, very adamant on what to do.
Does pretending to fall asleep on my arm signal that he really wants to get close to me? I'm getting all these signals and have before.
Should I bite the bullet and go past the "friendship boundary" and tell him I love him?
2006-12-26 08:38:07 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you do not fear risking the friendship (avoid the L word at first) but tell him you have feelings for him and wonder if he could think of you as more than a friend. You will know right away if he shares your thoughts.
2006-12-26 08:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey woopdeedoo. The best relationships are those where the couple are best friends.
Falling asleep - whether faking or real is definately a sign of interest. If you feel constant tension, it is there on both sides.
My advice: if you have a strong support system outside of this friend, explore and enjoy the discovery of love and friendship pronto. However, if this best-friend is one of a few friends and support, then proceed slowly and cautiously. There is no going back or do-overs.
Best wishes.
2006-12-26 08:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by Darbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever bullet you bite you should start with honesty because you kept writing and as you continued you gradually admitted that you like him. There are too many contradictions in your post! You know you like him and labeling him as "a friend" only justifies your hanging together and further fanning those flames. What you are experiencing and enjoying is a very "LONG FOREPLAY!" Admit to yourself much like you've done to the rest of the YAHOO world and tell the boy and get on with the ORGASM of life.
2006-12-26 08:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go rent the movie "When Harry met Sally" And if you want to break that barrier make sure you realize you could be losing that friendship if things don't work out as bf/gf. The movie had a happy ending but who knows what happened afterwards. In real life things don't always have a happy ending.
2006-12-26 08:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Believe me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he likes you especially if he was only pretending to sleep.
Bite the bullet and put it out there. ask him if he's ever thought about dating you. DOn't mention love just yet, you only want to gauge his interest not throw yourself at him.
Ask him if he'd like to goout on a real date sometime not as friends but as two people going out on a date.
2006-12-26 08:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely go for it. The sign of him pretending to fall asleep on your arm is of him wanting to get closer to you but maybe he is afraid of what you might say about it.
Good Luck
2006-12-26 08:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a difficult question. It could be he is comfortable with you and thinks of you as one of the boys but you are obviouly not one of the boys. I have used that before on a girl to let her know I care so it could be that. My best advice is tell him you'd like to go out on a date and see what happens. Best of luck to you!!!!! You have to tell guys what you want we are not sign/mind readers.
2006-12-26 08:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by BamaJJP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do anything about it just yet. He is either really comfortable with you like normal best friends should be, or he likes you. Time will tell..
You could try to tell him how you feel in a more subtle way and see how he reacts to it.
2006-12-26 08:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by Jenniphur 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww that is very cute! he definitely has feelings for you. you know, the best relationships start out as friends!
you should definitely have "the conversation" with him. ask him whats up. and ask if he has feelings for you. and then if yes, then go on and tell him you wanna take things to the next level!
2006-12-26 08:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by hey there :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a guys point of view, i wish you ladies would make some moves more often. i know the guy needs to take charge, but he sounds like me....shy until the green light is blazing away in his face. dont say the i love you thing just yet, take your time with that. but i would just make that move, and if he says no, then he says no....i bet you that he wont!!!
2006-12-26 08:42:36 · answer #10 · answered by brianju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋