i think. these days to have love, you need to show it. like kissing, and having sex. but don't you think that if we just waited.. for the day you guys got married.. that's when you share your first kiss, first intercourse. Love would last so much longer. because.. you guys waited that long.. and you loved each other first before making out or having sex. why do we do it then?
2006-12-26 08:35:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe in sex after marriage. Its the most beautiful thing when you wait. Love would be clearly defined. Too many people correlate sex with love. Especially if the sex is good, people won't seperate that with the reason of why they love there significant other. Sex unconsciously, becomes a factor in why we love the other person.
However, in this day and age, people don't wait because either at the heat of moment they can't control the situation or the number 1 reason is that that idea of sex after marriage hasn't been meditated on. If people set definite standards in that area and talked it over before seeing other people, sex before marriage wouldn't happen as often. it would be more sacred
2006-12-26 08:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by Alana ♥PeAcE♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waiting that long in an artificial environment makes no sense. If you're in traditional culture where such things are common, if not required, then it's fine. But in most societies holding off from any kind of contact makes absolutely no sense. Of course it's almost 100% of the time the girl asking for it, which makes for a bumpy relationship without any intimacy. Also in today's western society marriage (unlike what Pat Robertson and Jerry Falwell want people to think) carries little weight regarding sex. Remember people are also not born great kissers or lovers, it takes practice and knowing your partner, so that fumbling on the wedding night isn't always as romantic as it may seem.
2006-12-26 16:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though I am a guy, I am gonna keep it real with you and for you. What if you dont get married until 38? I know many cases of women who get fibroids cause they havent been having sex. U see your womb is made for that. (By the way look up 'FIBROIDS' on the net) It not having sex by a cerain age is very unhealthy. But on another note, we are now living in a society where its hard to go without that. I tried it and there was just too many girls who wanted me. But u must listen to ur heart and atleast wait for someone you know and love. I am saying this cause u could be a tennager, u probably are ... Anyway, Women start to menstruate at 13 which means they are ready from that time. That is why u have one egg every month till ur 44. It not like guys who make sperm straight into their 70's and 80's. Its just society that makes us think that we musnt sex until after college na dthen get married. It was not like this not long ago. Anyway just listen to ur heart and only will know when ur ready. U have lots of time and when the time comes u will know and will be ready ;-)
2006-12-26 16:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by TheLoveGuru;-D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I would say, before, even once, to make sure, you will be satisfied and compatible with your mate at this level, you will be amazed sometimes to see how much you love her , if she is really good at sex ...!!
I would say also someone must wait if he wants after marriage, but the gap between the encounter and the marriage should not exceed a certain amount of time (less than 6 months), but not years ... if you want to do that, you should starting date when u feel ready to get married as quick as possible ...by that way, you don't suffer ...
but, it's definitely best to have it before, by that way, u know what you are getting into, and u'll know if you have a happy sex life after marriage..
Good luck !!
2006-12-26 16:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by bobby s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well.. waiting to make out after marriage... that's a no no, what if they're an awful kisser (I've had some that turned me off so much I've dumped them because of it).
& sex, is the same thing... don't be a slut about it but you should go for it when you feel your relationship is ready for it & you're ready for it. Intimacy is a HUGE part of a relationship & if it's bad, then it's all bad!!! You need to know before you're stuck w/ it forever!
2006-12-26 16:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by Mishee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is easy, The Bible says that Sex is only Between a husband and his wife. Only loose individuals with no control over themselves have sex before they get married. There are thousands of ways to show love before marriage other than sex. Chivalry, saying "I love you", writing notes, buying flowers, going out on dates, buying gifts the other has let on they would like, sitting and talking with one another, and the list goes on and on. The problem is that America's mom's and dad's have left God out of their family, and they have raised children with little character, and no healthy fear of God. So these kids do what feels good, that starts with holding hands before marriage, which is also wrong according to God, and leads to Sex before marriage. So now we have teen pregnancy out of control in America, Children having children, and they have no idea how to raise them. Thus the cycle starts all over again. This could all be solved if people would stop to consider, What does God want?
2006-12-26 16:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by adam f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We should have all kinds of intimacy BEFORE marriage. it gives you a better idea of what were getting into. Lets be real folk. A high percentage of marriage is based on sex / intimacy and anyone who says different is fooling themselves. Look how man people in this forum alone are ready to end their marriagess because the sex is gone or not like it was before the marriage. I'm keeping it real in saying I couldn't imagine being in a sexless or damn near non-sexual marriage.
2006-12-26 16:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is NOT sex.. its mor elike sex apeal,you love what you see and gotta do it type thing.. anymore most people dont really listen to their hearts and dont try or fear the real love.. Love is strong and develops in time.. I believe sex is After because its more special and more passionate than you coudl ever imagine it could be like. Real love is ever lasting no matter what, youd knwo when its real love when you feel it deep within your heart .
2006-12-26 16:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by Andrea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex before marriage. Why would you want to take the chance of marrying someone that sucked in bed?
2006-12-26 16:42:13 · answer #9 · answered by Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still have my "V" card, and I am 21 yrs.old. I feel that waking will be the best gift that you can give to your husband. I believe that he will be thankful that you wanted to give him something that specail that no one has every had.And then you too can share something specail and take your time and wait did't be in a rush if he loves you he will wait.
2006-12-26 16:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by Callie B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋