God has been doing a work in me about letting go of the past and putting the past in the past and even though I have given over everything to the Lord there is this one instance that is a contention with me and bothers me.
I was in a very long courtship with my husband with total absitance and there were people giving us a hard time about getting married even though they had done things that were not excactly right in thier dealings.
There are times I still say I waited 3 years and 9 months for a lisence to practice and I earned the right to be married but this has gotten old and stale and people get tired of hearing these things.
I know of people that had easy breezy courthsips with little or no problems and I have been jealous of that.
My question is how to I lay this to rest and let go and move on I have a good marraige but the enemy is a lair and I get flashbacks of that tough time. How can I just let it go or use this instance to minister to others?
2006-12-26 08:34:38 · 7 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
So, wait. Are you happy in your marriage or not? In my experience, people who "court" are very unhappy once they tie the knot. The reason is that they have no clue what it is like really "being" with the other person. I'm not talking about living together, I just mean everyday normal life that you can't experience while simply "courting" the person. Courtship, in my opinion, should not be practiced by someone who is serious in getting married. You have to really know that person and that is literally impossible if you only "court" them. I don't want to hear that most people in the old days did it. Those people were just as miserable then as they are now, they just didn't divorce.
2006-12-26 08:41:09 · answer #1 · answered by Squirrel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're not supposed to let it go. If you can't, there must be a reason. Obviously, you have unresolved issues that need to be addressed before you can really move on. You don't need to let this go or use it to minister to others, you need to understand first what your mind is trying to tell you, and work through it.
2006-12-26 16:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of your Husband everytime you have those thoughts. Try not to worry about the other's. Eventually those feeling's will dissipate along with the other feeling's you have managed to let go. Good luck! '-)
2006-12-26 16:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple........is it in the past? yes? than it's done and over. work on the present and the future.
no one can change what is past, right? you can only affect decisions made now and tomorrow.
start little and move on to bigger issues. the past will remain in the past always.
2006-12-26 16:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by blueJean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in God but I don't go to any church because it is there you will meet the most backstabbers and gossipers.My bible tells me to come out from among them
2006-12-26 16:42:02 · answer #5 · answered by Reddog Price 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too Long To bother reading !!
2006-12-26 16:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep on living...if your life is good then be grateful
2006-12-26 16:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋