I have only been with my new boyfriend for a few months and now I'm pregnant. He doesn't want the baby. He is now avoiding me. Will he change his mind? On top of it all I still think about my ex all of the time.
2006-12-26 08:33:49 · 22 answers · asked by forgot my real name 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
No, the new bf will not change. He is a looser. Better off without him. Since he is the father, he has the right to see the kid so be glad he is gone. however, if you need his financial support (which the court can order) then also realize that he will be in your life until the kid turns 18.
Try getting back with your ex, if he will have you. Be honost about the baby.
Good Luck,
2006-12-26 08:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is creepy enough to tell you that he doesn't want the baby - then it is HIGHLY unlikely that he will change his mind. Hope you can get some child support out of him.
Re: you thinking about your ex. Please THINK about what you need to THINK about at this point and time. You have created a life - and now it will be your responsibility. How will you care for it? Love it? Provide for it? That's where your brain should be right now. Not on your ex boyfriend.
It's incredible. They require you to have a license to drive a car, run a business and even go hunting. But ANYBODY can have a baby. sigh.
2006-12-26 16:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by liddabet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand why, with all the birth control available, people still allow your sort of situation to happen because now you are in an impossibly tough place. Your new boyfriend is not going to change his mind but he has accrued a responsibility, like it or not. You both need to sit down with your parents!
2006-12-27 04:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU have a few choices--
You can either keep the baby and move on
OR- you can give the baby up for adoption
OR- abort it and get on some long-term birth control
Most likely, a guy is not going to change his opinion on whether or not he wants kids especially when he just got you pregnant. He will either change later on, or he will just never change. If you do plan on keeping the baby, don't get your hopes up. He may or may not want to see the baby. All I can say is to try to keep in contact with him at least for the sake of the child.
that's my best advice. sorry if it doesn't help you.
-asia
2006-12-26 16:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by Asia_Unscripted 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You know he might change but do you really what to wait around for someone like that. Go to the local court house get child support and be honest with the ex...... and give your baby all that love that that loser is missing!
2006-12-26 16:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by d_83_dot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not his choice its your choice. I would suggest that you take a quiet moment to meditate and think about what you want to do. My boyfriend pulled the same bull on me when I told him that I was pregnant. I had to pull myself together because I was stressed out. I finally decided to keep it and now i'm 40 weeks pregnant. When he seen that I wasn't giving in because he didn't want the child, he finally decided to step up and except it. I didn't depend on him to do anything. I am a strong women and you have to be strong also.
2006-12-26 16:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by Foreveryoung 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't want the baby, he shouldn't have been having unprotected sex with you. If you want the child, keep it. You thinking about your ex all the time is a seperate matter. That's another issue you need to deal with seperately.
2006-12-26 17:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by Empress 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no way of knowing if he will change his mind or not. Give him time to come around, keep him updated as best as you can on whats going on. Invite him to doctors appointments and so on. If he doesnt turn around, he is a looser and you dont need him. It will be hard raising your child on your own but your child doesnt need to around someone like that, he or she will be better off with one parent who loves them to death.
2006-12-26 17:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by mmsantiago3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very unlikely that your bf is going to change his mind about the baby; however, you are able to support and raise the baby w/o him.
2006-12-26 17:01:31 · answer #9 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
should've used protection. Live and learn from it. My husband & his adopted daughter are both the result of guys who were only in it for the "good time", but once a baby appeared, dad disappeared.
2006-12-26 16:46:09 · answer #10 · answered by catwoman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋