Im flirting with this 23 year old girl, she has a bf and a 4 yr old.
I know she is comfortable with him.
I tease and flirt with her and sometimes her 'comeback' is suggestive like if we are working on something i will send her a message to move faster. Then she will reply that Im the one that doesnt "catch on" and im "moving too slow for me"...and other suggestive things like touching my arm and teasing and staring at me.
She also has some sweet tig ol biddies.
Should I step it up?
2006-12-26 08:22:04 · 30 answers · asked by Peter X. Long 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S. I already gave my 2 week notice leaving for another job.
2006-12-26 08:33:36 · update #1
Im just asking, i wouldnt make a serious move because i hate it if someone did that to me. But it is tempting.
2006-12-26 09:55:51 · update #2
if your interested in her, then yes.
if you just want her as a right-now girl, the absolutely not. she has a boyfriend already, and more importantly, she had a child she needs to think of.
2006-12-26 08:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by ohyes_itsbekah 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
What are you doing flirting with a 23 year old with a 4 year old child? You make as much sense as the 23 year old mom, with a 4 year old, who has a boyfriend and flirts with her co-workers!
Never date at the office! Never date someone who is seeing other people! Never date a person with small children unless you are willing to take on the child! Never let office flirtation begin, unless you are willing to accept all the ramifications that are involved.
You are currently involved in a case of sexual harassment! I bet you haven't thought of that before you mentioned her "SWEET TIG OL BIDDIES"! Oh by the way, were you smart enough not to have used the office for this question?!
2006-12-26 16:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by believer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know she is in a relationship, and they have a child together you should back up. Maybe make a comment like, "Your boyfriend probably wouldn't like that very much, and see her response. You don't want to be a home wrecker. If she's really interested in you, she'll get out of the relationship she's in before she makes a move. Remember once a cheater always a cheater. A girl so willing to cheat on her boyfriend now would turn around and do it to you in a heart beat!
2006-12-26 16:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by ImageSavvy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont look at her baggage; her boyfriend and her child. Obviously the child is taken care of and the boyfriend is taken care of regardless. Just cause she has these things in her life doesnt mean she cant be attracted to you. Thats all it is. Especially since she knows that you know she has a bf and child. Its perfect right now that is not going to be your baggage. She never asked you to be her bf or take care of her child. She seems alot smarter than that. So smart infact, that she deserves to have u tap that *** and get to know the 'biddies'. She's only 23! She wants the best sex too. Just like everybody else. But if she goes into a certain direction like she wants to start a relationship, she will be smart enough to say to u that "yow, I wanna leave this dude for u how u feel about that?" And hey, if she doesnt and ur not into that then talk to her and let her know that u dont want to go that far. Most people are raised by single parents even if their parents are married. She aint walking around thinking about finding a father for her kid. He alrady has that. U can never be that so relax dogg... and squeeze one of them biddies for me kid!
Peace ;-)
2006-12-26 16:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by TheLoveGuru;-D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say don't step it up. She is in a comfortable ie stable relationship which means she really just thinks of you as someone to flirt with and raise her self esteem. You can be comfortable and in love with someone, but sometimes you always still want to know that you are desireable to others. Sorry girls play games like this all the time. And anyways you don't really want to get mixed up with someone who has a child. You should look for someone to start your own life with.
2006-12-26 16:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by eplascak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one thing to flirt and have fun, but unless you really want a relationship with her I would say no. If you only want sex than you will be messing up a good relationship, and leaving her alone to raise her 4 yr old, just to have a fling with her. That's not the right way to go man.
2006-12-26 16:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Ask her if she's interested in you more than friends. If she is, tell her she would have to decide whether she wants to be with her current boyfriend or break up with him and get to know you. Simple as that.
Never get yourself caught up between 2 people who are already in a relationship.
Anything worthwhile is worth waiting for.
2006-12-26 16:26:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sean B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to get in the middle of such a larpackage? A kid, a bf, and it sounds like she'd do anything. It's all up to you. You're a guy she wouldn't be affended if you try
2006-12-26 16:26:50 · answer #8 · answered by Candi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if your friend is not married, then you have an opportunity to be more than friends with her. Of course, you need to see what her long-term plans are. Perhaps she's just using you for a booty-call. If you work with her, I would discourage any more than flirting...
2006-12-26 16:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure if you like being an @sshole that breaks up relationship
PS - Any girl you get by getting her to cheat will eventually cheat on you
2006-12-26 16:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, Peter. The girl is literally begging you to be more agressive. She sounds like one fun, assertive girl. Those are in scarcity. I suggest that you adopt a more agressive approach since you are getting all the signs of her interest in you.
Timing is crucial, and it's time to act!
Thanks,
Arkady Itkin
Author of best selling audio programs on dating and personal growth at www.PracticalHappiness.com
2006-12-26 16:27:10 · answer #11 · answered by PracticalHappiness.com 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋