My partner of six years has spent £6 on my Christmas pressie. He said it's because he didn't have any money left after he bought a computer set and Nintendo DS (two of them) for his kids from his previous marriage. Shall I bother getting him a present for his birthday? (mid February) what do you reckon?
P.S. This is no joke.
2006-12-26 08:15:03 · 34 answers · asked by little_friend 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes, but don't spend more than a fiver. To all those who reckon the kids come first, that may be true but not to the point that you exclude your current partner. He didn't have to spend hundreds on his children, he could have spent half as much on lots of thoughtful gifts for them couldn't he? or are you all to blinded to realise that christmas isn't about having the top computer console because the media told you to get it!
2006-12-26 08:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by Hot British Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... A quid a year - probably the only benefit of spending any further years with him is an incremental pound increase year on year! Just think - in four years you will have enough money to buy yourself three pairs of everyday knickers from Topshop! It sounds to me like your bloke is like most other men out there - not particularly thoughtful and no idea how to make a woman happy. It's no fun playing second fiddle to someone else's kids - I know; I've done it. If he were a Big Issue seller, I would have given him a big kiss; however if he can afford expensive gifts for his kids and little more than a fiver for you, I'd shove his present down his throat and sulk. It's not that you're ungrateful, simply that the gift represents how much you mean to him - i.e. on the face of it, not much. I'd be inclined to sulk for a while, join a dating website and maybe look at the options in the bigger picture. For his birthday, I'd get yourself a lesbian lover and don't tell him - that'll teach him! Ha Ha!
2006-12-26 09:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by stephaniespectacular 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shows that he loves his kids and isn't the sort of man to just run away from responsibility.
On the other hand though, it's not very responsible to spend that much money if it means you can't afford anything else. Of course he wants good stuff for his kids, but a computer and 2 games consoles seems a bit over the top to me.
I think you should still get him a birthday present but if I were you, I'd have a bit of a talk with him. It's a difficult situation, becuase you don't want to make him choose between you and his kids, but after 6 years, pushing you to one side like that isn't fair.
2006-12-26 08:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by Poppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids come first... that is just the way it is.
If you guys have been together for six years, then you should know whether he is just being cheap or being honest.
If you couldn't afford to get him a Christmas present, wouldn't you feel bad if he didn't get you a birthday present?
Maybe next time you could ask, Should we exchange gifts this year? There is nothing wrong with partners not exchanging gifts. Just being together is enough.
2006-12-26 08:20:25 · answer #4 · answered by I am Crystal S. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im not realy sure how much L6 is as I am in usa. But dont you think material gifts are not what love is about anyways? I mean he did spend probably ALOT on his two kids, especialy if he does not have that much money. But if you dont give him a gift for his birthday wouldnt it be just a way to make him feel more guilt? Why not spend L6 on a dinner and cook that up for him on his birthday or something.
2006-12-26 08:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by Tropicalboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't measure your Christmas in dollars or pounds. It is one of the reasons why I am not excited about the holidays. Some people act like little children at Christmas time. I didn't get anything for Christmas at all and it was one of the better ones. When people give because they expect to receive they really aren't giving at all.
2006-12-26 08:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by 2-007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have the money then you should get him a present for his birthday, but get him something he'll like, not just the most expensive present you can afford.
Loads of people think nowadays that it's the cost that matters and not the present itself. Personally I'd rather get something that I like, rather than something which cost a fortune but is meaningless or crap.
2006-12-26 09:13:43 · answer #7 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's a good father who didn't want to disappoint his kids,& left himself broke in the process.I'm sure he was extremely embarrassed not being able to give you more.You should be a little more considerate,& give him credit for it.After all,you've got him most of the time,his children don't.You really should'nt begrudge any child a gift, no matter what the circumstances.
2006-12-26 08:28:43 · answer #8 · answered by michael k 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, its not how much the present cost, but the thought behind it. and can u blame the guy for getting stuff for his kids? come on u gotta admit its sweet he cares about them ;) and if u spend 6 years with him u guys love each other right? dont see the presents cost or value in money, see it in the thought and heart put behind it.
2006-12-26 08:18:24 · answer #9 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, especially if his gift to you was thoughtful. It's not his fault if he is short of cash and Christmas is primarily for kids.
I hope you're still both together in 44 years time and he gives you something cosing £50 then!
2006-12-26 08:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋