My Sister has been married for 10 years, about a year ago, my brother in law has been touching me. he was off work one day and came to my house and he was forcing his hands all over me and he threw me on the bed and was touching me but I could not stop him becuz he is alot stronger then me. But before you could go any further I told him to get off me Or i will tell my sister and he did. I love my sister and I dont know if i should tell her this becuz she loves he so much and they have 2 kids. I told my husband and he wanted to go to his house and confront him about it but I said no. should I tell her this? what if she blames me? Do you think brough this on?
2006-12-26 08:14:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Seems as though it only happened once don't say anything. It happens again that is another story. I had my mom's husband do the same thing to me when they were separated. I didn't tell anyone anything, just made sure that I watched my step with him though.
What I am saying is don't ask for unnecessary trouble when you don't need it. It could be possible that she may or may not blame you and it is wise not to find that out. Do I think you brought this on?
Yes, (to him that is) still it was not your fault. He should have kept his hands off.
2006-12-26 08:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep a distance from him....try never to be alone with him. If he comes to your house alone....don't open the door.
Ask yourself....do you think he would do this to another?
Are his kids safe? Is he still touching you or was this a year ago?
I didn't understand your statement>>>>about a year ago, my brother in law has been touching me.? Has it been a year since he did it?
If it was a year ago and he got your message to stay the (*&&^%!! away or you would tell.... and your heart tells you he won't do it again....I would let it rest....however if you answer the above questions with concern of others >>.the children or other women...I would talk to her.
No women brings this one....a Man is responsible for his own actions. I don't care how a woman dresses or how she flirts....no man has a right to enter a territory that does'nt belong to him or that he wasnt invited into.
however your questions you can only answer....if it was a year ago since he last tried this....I would think twice....if you are still concerned....then yes...I would talk to her....just my opinion though.
Best wishes
2006-12-26 09:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to tell your sister,since you already made it clear to your brother-in-law,an you told your husband.The realtionship is done,your sister will find out in time since your husband probably will be watching him like a hawk everytime your in his company,like holidays,birthdays,etc.you won't be able too look at him the same way anymore,an either will your husband so your sister is gonna get hurt eventually,will she blame you? probably an you did nothing wrong,but she most likely will defend him.Why was he over your house alone anyway?
2006-12-26 09:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by Lw's Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call baby protective facilities or Dept of Human facilities (relies upon on your section) and tell them what the toddler woman did with the banana. enable them recognize that he's a registered criminal. See in case you'll locate out all the information on him about what age his sufferer(s) became. that can help you you. Sorry to say this, yet when the mummy would not care adequate about the different 2 that were taken, she shouldn't concepts this one to have a more desirable existence both. she will probable get forget expenses and accomplice of abuse (allowing it to happen) if the husband is charged and convicted of something. you'd be doing the right problem to help the little ones get out of this concern. apparently the mummy would not care adequate about all and sundry to do something else. Is she probable on drugs? She needs help too. not basically the little ones. You sister will be getting abused as well. you truly opt to get them some help asap. solid success. searching on the state you're in, him being an criminal already, he will be searching at double penitentiary time if convicted. If he's on probation already, he should be in penitentiary on the instantaneous for abusing the different youthful ones. you want to get the state police in contact.
2016-10-16 21:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must tell your sister. As much as she loves him, she needs to know the kind of man he is. And then you tell HIM that if he comes near you again, you will lay charges.
2006-12-26 10:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by bellegurl17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catch it on video, tell your sister, have video ready in case brother-in-law denies it and give to police for attemted rape evidence.
2006-12-26 09:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband should confront him cause your sister wont beleive u
2006-12-26 09:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your sister regardless. If it was your husband trying to grope your sister wouldn't you want her to tell you?
2006-12-26 09:07:50 · answer #8 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your sister. If he is cheating on her then if you wait longer to tell her shell be hurt more but if you tell her now she wont be as upset
2006-12-26 08:42:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first-- you knock the hell out of him......,
2nd-- let your husband have a shot at him....
3rd-- tell your sister and bring his world to an end....
4th- it will take a couple of weeks for your sister to get
over it , but she will, and will eventually be o.k....
2006-12-26 15:04:49 · answer #10 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋