This break up would be seemingly out of the blue as we seem, at least on the surface, to get along. I dread breaking up, but I would also dread staying together forever.
2006-12-26 08:12:04 · 8 answers · asked by Willamena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my opinion, this is one of the most difficult aspects of human behavior to confront and deal with.
I've been in a similar situation. You meet, you get to know each other, you fall in love, and it lasts for a few years. You still care deeply about the person, and even love him/her, but it's not the same feeling it was when you met and fell in love.
You remember how much this person means to you, and you know how much you mean to this person. Here's the thing that most people may not understand. If you feel something is missing, or wrong, or the passion, intimacy, or love has died in the relationship, the other person is aware of it, too. Even if only on a subconcious level, he/she knows it isn't what it used to be.
As with some of the other posters here, I would have to agree that the best thing you can do for yourself and for the person you don't want to hurt is to get to the heart of the matter. Find a way to discuss the missing aspects of your relationship. There was something there once, there may be a way for you two to be happy and back in passionate, emotional, romantic, intimate love again - if - that is what you both want.
If you're at a point where you miss what you once had, but you're not sure you want it back - or at least that you aren't sure you want it back with this person... it's probably over. The worst thing to do is to think you can make yourself believe you want it again. You'll end up hurting yourself and your partner even more over a longer time.
For reference, regardless of what I tried, my relationship was doomed. Eventually, we stopped talking at all unless it was mean or hate filled conversations. I ended up leaving and it was extremely difficult for a while. We were on "friendly terms" afterwards for years, and haven't spoken now for just over 3 years. I have a better relationship now with better income and more friends than I ever had in that relationship.
Confront the situation, decide what you want to do now, do it.
Just my two cents.
2006-12-26 08:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by stevegoryan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had been with my boyfriend for almost two years. I have never cared about a guy outside of my family this much. I used to be in love with him but I know that I could not marry him and grow old with him. I still love him but not in that way. He treated me so well and loved me so much so I always felt guilty for wasting his time. I thought I could convince myself to want to be with him. One day I finally got the courage and the consideration to be honest with him. He was devastated and probably hated me for a while but now at least he can find someone who truly wants to be with him, and can be there for him in a way that I never could.
2006-12-26 16:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by ekstacee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wot??? are u crazy??? u wud rather go out with sum1 for a cupla months or sumthin and then break up for the rest of your life?????? i assume u dnt want kids or to have a stable home or a stable love-life! or comfort. u dnt wna feel wanted or be happy! i hope ur partner dumps u 4 thinking like a mong!
2006-12-26 16:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by Carefree? Noway! I wish! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit them down and tell them the truth about how I'm feeling.
Tell them you care about them, but in the long run, this relationship will not work for you and now that you know it, you feel it's better saying it now rather than later.
And tell them you're sorry too.
2006-12-26 16:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to make up ur mind first then ask the question later because it seems that u r more confused than the people on yahoo. frankly i don't know what to say. sorry and good luck
2006-12-26 16:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my long time ex girl did that to me,,, I would try talking to her honestly about what is bothering you first. Atleast then you tried, or things may be different after that. Mine didnt talk to me about things and I know I would have done things different if she only did. Actually they werent big problems what so ever.
2006-12-26 16:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by dudeone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R U SERIOUS?HOW DO U NO IT'S NOT GOIN 2 WORK?R U PSHYCHIC OR JUS CHEATING ON THE POOR GUY/GIRL?
2006-12-26 16:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by MAIME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it, you will be saving both of you a lot of grief later.
2006-12-26 16:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋