So confused!!?

Question

I started dating this guy when I was 17 and was with him for 7 years, 4 of which we were engaged. A year and a half ago I broke up with him because I felt that we weren't in love with each other anymore. He begged me not to go, but I did anyway. I started dating a close friend of mine way too soon and broke my ex's heart. We still talk on occasion even though he's seeing someone and I'm still with the guy I started seeing after the split. I really miss him and would love to see if maybe we could make things work. He sent me a text first thing Christmas morning and wished me a Merry Christmas, but as soon as I invited him over to my parents for a drink, I didn't hear back from him. Do you think this is something that we should try to work out or have I destroyed what we once had forever? I can't picture my life without him in it, but he's so hard to communicate with. He won't give me the chance to tell him how I feel. I almost feel as if I deserve to suffer because I hurt him. =(

Answer 1

Ok first of all remember and know that you were not wrong for doing what you did when u were with him. U left or felt the need to leave cause u had butterflies. This is good in hind sight cause now you do know for sure that you do love him. Its like this when everyone is in a relationship especially when ur about to make that life long decision. Thats the thing about relationships; u could easily take them and the relationship for granted. Explain these things to him and he will be able to relate.

If u feel u need to cry of feel depressed right now do that. The christmas season is known for either great joy or great unhappiness. But just know that u need to try to get to him. He cant communicate but he isnt the one who needs to. U need to find him and say what u have to say and find if he feels as empty as you. Tell him to take a couple of days to think about getting back cause sometimes its just too late. Maybe he has fixated his mind against u now. When u see him u wont even need him to open his mouth to say anything. When u speak u will see the answer on his face. U know him best. I know he didnt answer back, but would u? He wants to see u make an effort (but do it without seeming desperate. There is no need for crying. We men look down upon that.) Be strong, but all the time be aware that he might say no. Take comfort in the fact that u are young and still have alot to offer any man. I mean look at you!..... Go get 'em ;-)

Answer 2

well i guess after what u did to him even though he begged u not to leave but u did anyway, i think that it will be hard for to trust u again nor giving a second chance because he might think that u would do the same thing over again. anyway if he loves u I'm sure he will give u a second chance because no ones is perfect and the fact that u were a little bit young at the time it happened. so if u want him back get on ur knees and beg him to take u back. good luck

Answer 3

i don't mean this to sound rude but it sounds like you just needed to test out the waters for others. after being with the same person and not being with anyone else it makes you wonder about yourself. i have been very happily married to the same man for 18 years but there are times when we are togather that i wander would this work on someone else. am i doing this right or what. so then you start to wander and then that is when you tend to think about things or do things you shouldnt and then sometimes you mess things up the one good thing you do have. i know i have come very close to messing up myself. but then i look at my sweetie laying next to me and realize it isnt worth messing it up. good luck.

Answer 4

I think you want to do this for you. You broke his heart and now he's moved on, as have you.

Let him go and find a life for himself. You should also cut off the present bf as you're not being fair to him either. Going with him but pining for someone else.

Answer 5

As near as I can tell you screwed him over once and it hurt so damn bad. He isn't stupid enough to come backs for seconds.It probably hurts like hell for him. But he is being safe not sorry again..Leave him alone and go pick on someone who might screw you over..See how you like it..I have been there and I am one bitter SOB. It's been a long time and I wouldn't give her the time of day, not on a bet.......!!!!

Answer 6

the way u started dating somebody immediatly after the break up is awful :s .. you spent 7 years with him, u should have thought earlier that you were going to miss him ..
i think you should give it a last try & try 2 call him again !

Answer 7

You need to pop into his place & tell him you need to talk to him & won't leave until he hears you. Then after that he'll know what you feel & make his own decision based on his own feelings.

Answer 8

i think you messed up and he is affraid to let you in cuse you might do it again try talking not texting

Answer 9

time to move on