why does my mam/mom/mum call me ugly.................?

Question

she says its in the "heat of the moment", i think its a lame excuse personally, but she always calls me ugly when we have arguments, why? i mean, i know i am, but surely she should be saying how nice i look on that day? she tries to make me feel better by saying i have a nice nature, but it still bothers me, to the point that i push girls away, when they try to make little inroads to developing feelings for me, as i feel they would be better off with someone else, not just with better looks, but with a nicer nature, as i think my nature is pretty odd, and twisted in some respects.

i added the different variations of the word "mam", so as any american YA ppl don't get confused

Answer 1

Because she's abusive.

No parent should ever say such a thing to their child, whether in the heat of the moment or not. No disrespect intended to your mom, but she sounds immature and cruel.

The important thing you should know, however, is that obviously someone finds you attractive. You say that there are girls who want to hang out with you, and it's YOU who reject THEM. So what your mom says and what you, sadly, seem to believe can't be true. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

You're going to have a tough time combating the negative input you've recieved from your mother over the years, but it's something you've got to do. You deserve better. You are NOT ugly. I know it, and I haven't even seen you. And even if you're not a GQ model, you deserve to be treated with respect, to be valued and loved and treated with kindness. Please pursue that, outside of your home, somehow.

Answer 2

Even if you are ugly, which you may not be because mothers just say things sometimes, it doesn't matter. A lot of girls including myself find attractiveness in personality and stuff rather than appearances. Different girls like different personalities too so even if your nature is pretty odd, I'm sure there is a girl out there for you. Don't push them away, if they are interested in getting to know you better, let them. You may find out more people like you or that you are more attractive than you think.

Answer 3

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, I know guys who don't find Angelina Jolie attractive at all, though the general opinon is she is the worlds most beautiful woman!

I think your mum is a bit twisted to be honest, it's a cruel thing to say to anyone, but to your own child?

Horrible.

Just relax, you are not ugly, if girls are making a play for you then how can you be?(Unless you have a trust fund or something?) just relax, don't take your mothers bitter words to heart, you are fine as you are as long as you don't intentionally cause anyone pain(THAT'S a twisted nature, and exactly what your mum is trying to do to you)

Just laugh at her when she says it, if it bothers you so much, then she will use it as a weapon that she knows will hurt you. If you laugh then she thinks it has no effect and will (hopefully) give up.

Answer 4

I cant believe a mom would say something like that! That is totally wrong! I have 4 children and I wouldnt ever say something like that. I would like to get ahold of your mom myself and have a few words! The only time I have ever referred to my kids as being ugly is having an ugly attitude when they are in a bad mood..are you sure that your mom doesnt mean it that way? Either way dont let it get to you..people get mad and say things that they dont really mean just to be hurtful..we all do it at one point or another. If your mom is saying that you are physically ugly then the next time that she does it ..tell her that someone said you look just like her..that will shut her up! You obviously arent ugly on the outside if girls are interested in you..think about it so dont get worked up and dont let it make you ugly on the inside.

Answer 5

She knows you are sensitive in that area and she knows that when she says it it gets you. Mission accomplished!!! Later on she feels guilty and to make herself feel better by telling you that you look good. I don't want to insult your mother but she sounds kind of childish, maybe she feels unattractive and calling you ugly or putting you down makes her feel powerful. What I would do in your situation is to pretend it does not bother you one bit. Eventually I would tell her: " you know something mom? I know I'm not ugly. I feel good about myself. I love myself the way I am!!! and if it makes you feel better when you call me ugly you should ask yourself what is it that a mother calls her child ugly. It may be that the real ugly one is the mother and not the child!!!!"
Anyway, good luck and don't let her get you down.
P.S: your mom got me REALLY mad!!!!

Answer 6

If you make yourself presentable you are human none of us looks alike. I am the prettiest girl ever so you can't be as pretty as me but I'm sure you look just fine. If my mom or anyone told me I was ugly I would tell them to kiss my butt. You have to have an attitude to go with your looks don't let anyone say you are ugly not even your mom. xx

Answer 7

some circumstances, and at right here as properly (and it wasn't a especially question yet a "how am i able to do my make up" question). i are starting to be to be it whilst i became youthful, yet seldomly and that i nonetheless get it ocassionally now and that i'm 23. yet I are additionally starting to be to be and do presently get the precise opposite. now and returned I basically don't understand human beings... that is surpassed off the two with and with out make up so i be attentive to that is in all threat basically some thing distinctive approximately my face :/

Answer 8

You are NOT ugly.People will see you inside where beauty really counts.You mother is abusing you in the worst way.Tell her that everyone said I look just like you Mother.That should make her look in the mirror.I used to go with her and broke it off because she is to ugly for a rich man like me. I heard that in a song.

Answer 9

i think is really mean for someone to call you ugly and even less you own mother. but you know what i think that's no reason to push girls away when they might actually like you. i personaly think theres is no ugly or pretty cuz everybody has different taste maybe for someone im ugly but for someone else im beautiful. dont let your mothers comments affect your life.

Answer 10

hey not everyone starts out beautiful, but you grow into it, and when you become good looking you will have a good personality to go with it unlike some other people. Your mom is very immature to talk like that to you and you should tell her that she needs to grow up and not talk to her kid that way and to leave the way you look out of it. It is a very cheap shot.