Confused about this? i was wondering if anyone can help me with a prob i have... well the thing is i met this guy and now where dating for awhile but he has a brother and everytime i see me or he sees me-he makes sures im looking at him and giving him attention. Well I dont know its seems wierd too wierd for me to treat me like this, i mean everytime we go to a club or something he comes by and gives me a long hug as if he didnt want to let go--and inside im thinnking whats going on? is it me thats being silly or is he showing me some affection towards me---spending the holidays--well he makes sure hes sitting superly close to me and talks to me and makes sure im looking at him--- hmm ? wierd. And i dyed my hair and he noticed and commented me right a way. Strange... and there was gossip from my bfs friends -they said that --the brother is jealous of my bf dating me and they said he wished i was his instead of my bf--does anyone think there is something there besides NICE GUY!!????
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Well hes nice, he travels alot- I consider him as a friend but nothing else because it would be just very not proper. But I think that the "brother" is giving me more attention than my bf, my relationship isnt too beautiful-he makes me feel as if im not worth anything-i had a goal to go be a fashion designer-he tells me that its not me-i have looks to be a model-he tells me not to do it- and i feel un special by him-more special by the "brother"
i dont know if i wanna say this but he barely kisses me---no making out nothing!! i know its not based on this but like constanly hes sleeping or playing with the cats and no attention for me-and i just want to run away--his brother travels from one side of the world to the other-is so fun and so on and on but i just dont know what to do--im sooo sad-it doesnt matter to me any more that he likes me or he doesnt but i just WISH "BOYFRIEND" WOULD have the personality that the brother has:(
2006-12-26 07:44:35 · 15 answers · asked by Misia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yea he scares me on occasion too...the problem is i live with him and its hard to move out so slowly i have to make a move FAST!
2006-12-26 07:57:14 · update #1
Leave. There is something wrong with both of them.
2006-12-26 07:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by reggae superstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you sound a bit CONFUSED. From what you wrote, you are not happy in your relationship. So get out of it. You don't need a man to justify who you are. Do what you have to in order to reach YOUR GOALS not HIS. Your man should support your dreams and encourage you to be your very best. He shouldn't put you down!!
The "brother" is giving you the attention you yearn from your boyrfriend. You already know that there is no solid future with him because he travels alot. But if he is your "friend" he might be able to help or guide you in the right direction towards your dream of being a fashion designer or model.
A word of advice...you might not want to trade 1 guy for another. You need some time for yourself to figure out what you want - in yourself, your career, etc. Men will come and go but you need to take care of YOU first.
Good luck and I hope 2007 brings all your dreams to life!!
2006-12-26 07:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by sweetsxyazn2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, dump the bf. he sounds awful. a bf should be supportive and caring and affectionate. you say that "making out" is not what it's about...it's not, but i believe it is important in a relationship. maybe the brother is trying to show you how crappy his brother is by paying extra attention to you so that you may see the bf for what he is & not be hurt by the bf. and the brother sounds great but be careful w/ that. i wouldnt suggest dating him unless the attraction is very powerful & you feel like he's very very special. it could cause problems in the brother & bf's family and that wouldnt be so good, right? :) above all though, get rid of this bf. if you are beautiful and talented you should push yourself and become what YOU want to be, not what some stupid man tells you you shouldnt be.
2006-12-26 07:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by nurdburd13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your looking for approval from someone to start seeing the brother. If the bf is not paying attention to you why not, the brother is obviously very fond of you, and seems more interested in you than his brother is.
2006-12-26 07:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the brother is jealous of the b/f, and he may have been since they were little. Here's my suggestion. Leave the b/f that doesn't appreciate you and don't even think about touching the brother. Find a new man that can appreciate you for who you are. You can do anything you put your mind to!
2006-12-26 08:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by Candi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k, the bro is jealous. ur bf is not treating you right. the bro will prolly only treat you so nicely until you actually treat him nicely and passionately as well. if you got into a relationship w/ the bro, the niceness might fade away. break up w/ ur bf and enjoy being single.
2006-12-26 07:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by Surfergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in line with threat you're bf's brother likes you, yet do no longer choose for it. being cheated on with a brother hurts worse than buddy. and as some distance because of the fact the ex gf element, you're able to talk on your bf approximately it if it bothers you. he may well be cheating on you along with her and he's probably no longer yet you will never be attentive to in case you do no longer talk with him approximately it.
2016-10-28 10:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by doti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with the boyfriend and move on it sounds like you got a crush on his brother.
2006-12-26 07:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Lise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you, if you care about ur bf dont do anything adout his bro just tell his bro that he is buggin u and u care bout ur bf allot. beleave me just tell him to go way u dont want to ruin ur relationship w/ ur bf and the 1 of ur bf and his brother, dont keep in the family.
2006-12-26 07:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by CANDY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your mans brother likes you- but it would be wrong to pursue it, unless you and your man determined that you two wont work as a couple, and tell him about your feelings for his brother, you never know he might give you his blessing
2006-12-26 07:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by shannon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋