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Assuming science rules, motivations are usually centered upon reproductive success strategies. These change as the situation changes - few women would care as much now if her male was physically aggressive to threats as they would have before, say, fire. So the prototypical American situation - or western society - how does it go? Is visual first, or knowledge of money, et cetera? Are women more likely statistically to prefer generous men, or more predictable, and usually successful, selfish men? Now that survival is not so hard, do women want men not much more intelligent than them, so they will not be overwhlemed, (ego thing,) or do they still go for the most intelligent man? Is it less about childbirth now? What are the strongest lasting influences on her determination of her optimal mate?

Please, no broad strokes. Give as much detail as you can. If you've got reliable, SCIENTIFIC sites, please list them. Thank you very much; happy holidays (maybe, if you celebrate).
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2006-12-26 07:44:27 · 3 answers · asked by ergonomia 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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The question you are asking HAS no answer. Back in the days of the caveman, women looked for the strong, wise, and capable provider. Men gravitated toward the curvier, younger, healthy looking child bearer. Ah-simplicity. But today, we are no longer motivated by these needs the way they were-those instincts are overridden.
I still believe that subconsciously, we still recognize and are attracted to the "gene" factor. Studies show that we ALL, even as infants, naturally gravitate toward symmetrical features, which is not only because they are generally more attractive, but because they indicate good genes and therefore good breeding health. So in a way-instant attraction is still all about childbirth.
A woman today who seeks a large bank account or immense brain power in a man is still seeking a good provider, just with a different motivation now, according to beliefs that were instilled in her by family and society, or her past experiences in life.
You see, you seem to think that because this is the way things were at the beginning stages of man, that somehow that is still how it would be today. But the fact is that all "cavemen" lived basically the same way. There were no millionaires, no homeless, no politicians, no grocery stores. Our needs in a mate were different according to the time. Today, those needs are different for each of us individually, because there is such a broad spectrum of possibilities. We, as women, have more choices than just generous man or testosterone man, caveman A or caveman B. Men have more complex personalities, and not only can they be both, but they can run the gammut anywhere between garbage collector to president.
We're all looking for something different. One woman will marry for money regardless of age or personality, the next will marry a poor man because he makes her laugh.
Science DOES rule, it's just more complex now in this situation. We all look for a specific type of person with specific traits. But we aren't living in caves anymore, and we don't have to have a man to bring home a dead animal to survive anymore.

2006-12-26 08:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by dragonlady 4 · 0 0

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2016-10-19 00:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by kigar 4 · 0 0

Usually the female is attracted to what she knows - ie someone that reminds her of something in her past (good or bad).
IE - I always date dark hair and large build
history - father is dark hair but very thin.
need: want someone like my dad but w/ more meat on him

Next Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs:
Deficiency needs – which are mostly physical (eat, breathe, social, sex, ect)
IE - I need to be able to know that he can sustain himself and I will not need to provide for him.
history – Don’t want a leach and I don’t want to loose my identity because I am now his “girl”
need: Wouldn’t mind being treated every once in a while. Wouldn’t mind to see my friends too!

Growth needs – self actualization
IE – Does this relationship have any potential
History – If your temporary don’t leave your crap at my house
Need: defined relationship!

2006-12-26 08:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by Diane A 5 · 0 0

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