now she wants space and wants me to trust her and jsut let ehr have her own life. we live together and she doesnt want to move out but i feel it getting closer and closer to losing her. I need to to get my **** together before its to late. we were fine for a while but she went away for 6 weeks for work and made 2 male friends (coworkers) now one of them bought her a kind of expensive x-mas present and i went off on her. she said it only a gift and they are ONLY friends she told ehr friend about it and told her not to tell me because I would flip out I found out about it. I found out anyway and now i have feel like ****. How do i get over feling like this and how do I still live with her and give her the space she is asking for.
2006-12-26 07:40:28 · 14 answers · asked by r o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are sick. Get counseling.
2006-12-26 07:43:19 · answer #1 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe YOU'RE the one who needs space. Think about that for a second. If you don't trust her, there may be a reason.
Most successful couples I know go out of their way to ensure the comfort and security of their partner. If she's keeping secrets from you and distancing herself already, well . . .
And even if she's not doing anything wrong, maybe YOU need some space, so you can ratchet down your emotional state. A healthy relationship is supposed to make you feel comfortable and secure. If you don't feel that way, one of the two of you, or maybe both, have a problem.
Ultimately, she's not the only fish in the sea, and if things don't ultimately work out, you'll find someone else.
2006-12-26 07:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is this thing of a present u're speaking of? u have a valid point as to having ur opinion but should never vent on ur woman like you have, part of being a gentleman is to keep ur cool at all times and ESPECIALLY to ur love ones...talk it out with her on what bothers you and see if she can help it, if not, i don't think she's the right one for you and you shouldn't hold onto her. Tough but u have to make up ur mind. She can't refuse a wrapped x-mas present if she doesn't know what it is. If the guy already told her it would anger you and she STILL accepted it, then she has issues...good luck man.....ohh yea, knock off that spying craps, u know better
2006-12-26 08:02:47 · answer #3 · answered by tmngo2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take a deep breath and relax. She must love you if she's still living with you so you're not losing her. Does she flip out as much as you do if you have female friends? The only way to get over this feeling is to think, if I continue to act this way I most definitely will lose her. By the way you should get a life, do something with yourself like making new friends so your not left thinking about what she's doing.
2006-12-26 07:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, that is a tough one. I know how you feel. Do you know the two guys? I suggest trying to get to know them. For all you know they could be gay. From experience, all I can say is this: If you keep pushing her she will find it easier to leave. If you feel threatend by the 2 guys, (ie, they will steal her from you), make her fall in love with you all over again. Shower her with gifts and compliments. Don't give her any reasons to leave. I'm somewhat in the same boat as you. You just gotta bite the bullet and put all the trust you can into her and hope for the best.
2006-12-26 07:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by dwarner33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to chill out you shouldn't want a woman that another man doesn't want anyway. And you seem like your mad because she has a job be grateful that she has a job that's a good thing. And it is just a gift but in all fairness to you she shouldn't have accepted an expensive gift from another man and let you find out about it. She has to remember that you are her man and you do have pride and no man wants to think of another man spending a bunch of money on his woman. But you don't need space you just need to chill out.
2006-12-26 07:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Lise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman hates to be smothered and spied on, you need to let up on her. If you don't stop hounding her ever move , yes you are going end up losing her. Just try to no be so around all the time, go out with your friends and she isn't married to you and really she doesn't have to answer to you.
Hope all Works Out For You.
2006-12-26 07:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh....just give her the space dude. Find something else to do while she's doing her own thing. She wants to go out with her friends or whatever....cool....free night for you to go out and do whatever it is you like doing.
2006-12-26 07:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by Barrett G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow some B@LLS man. You're losing her because of your insecurities and lack of trust. You have become a wussy and women don't like wussies!
2006-12-26 07:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by mvas800 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By smothering her you are driving her away.
Give her some room and try not to be so paranoid.
Listen to what she says, dont jump to conclusions.
2006-12-26 07:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to lay off and give it a rest, you don't want to loose her but you're on that path....get over your insecurities or loose your girl....No one can tell you what to do to deal with your demons, you know what they are and you need to face them.
2006-12-26 07:44:57 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋