My problem is my sister in law? please help...?

Question

My In-laws and my husband is very nice but my problem is my Sister in law she is financially poor she stays withe me from past 1 year , she has 2 daughters both of them are very destructive . Her husband works some where else. My problem is can't say anything to her daughter bcoz of my Mother in law....and i can't tolerate them anymore what t do now...please suggest...

Answer 1

It is your home and u set the rules if she doenst like it she knows where the door is.And as regards your mother in law its nothing to do with her she should butt out or tell her to take your sister in law to her place.

Answer 2

Time to talk to your husband, tell him that this is no way for a husband and wife to live, and that you were nice enough to let this go on for as long as it has. Then once he understands (make him if he doesn't) both of you can talk to your sister in-law to start finding alternate living arrangements, perhaps moving in with your mother in-law (since it is more appropriate, rather than living with you). Tell her that "it isn't personal, but you do feel that you and your husband are being taking advantage of, and before things become uncomfortable, it's time for change."

Answer 3

As the one who was married into the family, it would be wise to not say anything to them, it is your husband's duty to do this, because if it came out from you it would be taken very very wrong, and if it came out of your husband it would be ok. Talk to your husband about how you feel, because if he doesnt have your back then your home will be destructive and it is not right that you cant have your home the way you want it, but yeah dont say anything, only through your husband because if you do the fall out would be bad, situations happen where mils get upset and cut off husbands/wives and their spouses just because they make comments about the grandchildren. you can get advice from others who in similar situations on www.ihatemyinlaws.com the people on there are very supportive and itsa great place to vent also. good luck

Answer 4

I don't think one household is big enough for two grown women. She should be staying elsewhere. You and your husband need to sit down and have a serious talk. Tell him you're not happy with them there. Maybe if they cannot afford to move out on their own, your mother in law can take them in.

Answer 5

You need to talk to your husband? This is a serious problem and if they are living in your house you should be able to say what you need to perserve your household. What will your mother in law do, disown you? so what ? that is on her. That is your house communication is key. Get on one accord with your husband and have an open forum tell them how you feel.

Answer 6

Make your husband handle it. It's his family, he's going to blame you anyway. Everyone needs to be out of your house. Poor is as poor does, if they wanted more she would be working to get her own place and she's married too. Oh hellllnaw!!!!!!!!! You are enabling them to depend on you to live. Bad move.

Answer 7

,I WOULD TELL HER NICELY THAT THEY NEED TO FIND THEIR ON HOME, THAT YOU WOULD LIKE SOME PRIVACY. THE MOTHER IN LAW DOES NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO TO WITH YOUR LIFE AND YOUR HUSBANDS THAT'S WHY YOU WERE MARRIED RIGHT? THE OTHER WAY OUT IF YOU ARE RENTING, YOU MOVE.

Answer 8

Why is she staying with you? She sould be staying with her own mother. Kick her out. Tell her to get a grip on life and to grow up.

Answer 9

talk to your husband, if you cant agree to fix problem, then you need to tell him his sister needs to move to her mothers house or you going to your mothers house.